How do you love yourself postpartum?

I am real struggling feeling me again after having two kids in two years. No drive to do my hair or make, or to dress up. I’ve gained over 60 pounds. Currently in therapy and trying some new meds but can anyone relate? How do you feel beautiful postpartum? (Before and after kids - please don’t judge)

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For me loving myself came with investing in myself. Choosing to take time for myself, despite how hard it was. Waking up and accepting myself and my body for what it does and what it is, not what I want it to be. It’s not a switch that flips, it’s a process that can take years. You are beautiful, you were beautiful then and you are now. You have created a beautiful family and that should be celebrated. It takes time. Take it day by day, learning to appreciate one little piece of yourself. Take at least 5 minutes for yourself. You are worth it!

Going through postpartum with my second now. With my first i struggled a lot to be kind to myself, I couldn’t look in the mirror without crying or feeling disgusted with myself (awful i know), but I learned how to speak kindly to myself, to look at my body that went through hell to bring life into this world with grace and gratefulness. I accepted that some things were out of my control like the stretch marks but that I could make the best of it, although I couldn’t get rid of them fully i wanted to feel comfortable in a bikini again. Somewhere along the way i realized that the biggest act of self love was to take care of myself, i started working out, taking a few minutes to get ready for the day, treating my stretch marks, a few months after i felt so much better, i could look at myself in the mirror without crying, instead i felt proud, proud of every little thing that was changing because i was pouring into myself

Hey sis, you are gorgeous! I’m also battling with the same thing and ChatGPT has been helping me honestly, I didn’t know how to style my new postpartum body. So maybe ask ChatGPT, send a full body photo but scribble out your face if you want to, that’s what I did. It’ll tell you outfits and color that go best with your skin tone. And how to style and stuff like that. Be prepared to spend some money, but honestly, Klarna saved me.😂😂

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Is anyone a health visitor - need advice 🙏🏼

I’m severely struggling as a single parent with no family or other parent.

My toddler is well turned out, cared for, eats well, bathed, cuddled, loved, has external social activities. I give my everything to my child. So they’re not lacking. They are safe.

But I’m not well. Mentally and physically.
I can’t wash, feed myself well, lack of happiness in any aspect. Exhausted. Falling behind on so many things apart from maintaining my daughter.
Going through some external life issues which are exasperating life in the last yr or so. I can’t cope, I’m so low. I’ve had worrying thoughts about maybe it’s best I end things with myself and our pets. And let my daughter be free of everything that’s going towards me failing to survive myself. So lost and falling apart physically and mentally.
I can’t let my daughter down as she’s so attached to me. But I can’t cope.
The toddler phase has ramped up and I don’t know how to deal with the meltdowns. I don’t know how to fix myself. I don’t want her to create a bad start to how she see’s life because I’m hanging by a thread. Sometimes (a lot lately) feel she deserves better.
There’s so much to unpack that I can’t verbalise.

appreciate people might reply and say you’re doing a good job, or it is hard, etc.

But I really need a health visitors opinion on what support I may get. Without them thinking I’m saying I can’t be her mother.

This isn’t coming out well, but I’m dying inside. I don’t want to wake up. I have to admit I can’t do this and she deserves a big family and not a mother drowning in this life

Sleep schedule

I need some advice.I have a twenty one month old son.His name is miles.He's such a great baby but lately, he's been going down for his normal bedtime. 738 and then wakes up at 12 o'clock at midnight and stays up the rest of night, dancing carrying on. I've done everything song to Em rock. Try to Rock Em to sleep, played his soothing music. You name it, I've done it and it just doesn't work. And it's like he's sleeping. I mean, I haven't saw me, but he's too young to haven't saw me yet. I feel like he thinks he's gonna miss something till lately. Here and there I've been given a melatonin which I know it's just a supplement and it's not addictive. But they can get accustomed to that. And by taking nuts, that's the only way they can go to sleep. And I don't want him to feel like that. And honestly, he's got the gists of what I'm putting something in this milk because he throws the milk bottle. Now and it's horrible. I don't like to give it to him all the time. And sometimes it works, but sometimes it does not.And he is so hyper, he's bouncing off the walls, even worse than he was before.I just need some help.I'm a single mother and i'm not getting a lot of sleep at all.I just need some guidance, please.Ladies

Owlet Sock

Just wondering if anyone else experiences issues with the owlet sock disconnecting from the base station every night?
The base station is less than 10ft from baby and it still disconnects every night without fail 😩
Has anyone used an alternative to the owlet that they would recommend because I’m ready for launching it out the window at this point 😅

Should I take milk in my hospital bag?

Hiya,

I’m about to be 39 weeks and so far I seem to have no milk, I’ve tried all the tips of warm massage etc but can’t seem to get anything which makes me think my milk may not come until possibly after baby is born (if at all)

Did anyone else struggle with this or have delayed milk? If so would you recommend me taking some instant baby milk in my hospital bag or would the hospital provide this if my milk hadn’t come in yet?

iPad

What age is advisable to buy your child an iPad? Or what age did you buy your child one

Arguing in front of baby

First time mum here to a 10 month old. Ever since we had the baby my husband and I have been arguing a lot. They are not explosive fights or anything distressing they’re mostly bickering and being annoyed at each other. I know our relationship is fine and it’s just ups and downs but what worries me is that our LG sees this. I’ve always intended not to have arguments in front of her but that turned out to be super unrealistic.. or maybe it’s doable and I’m just failing at it miserably

I just feel so bad now and I’m worried it’ll teach her to speak unkindly or affect her and her wellbeing in some way 😔😔