Nursery's or childminder

What's the pros and cons of nursery and childminder

I'm not sure sure which one to send my child to and want to hear some options from other moms

in our community

Feeling miserable

My relationship with my husbands the worst it has ever been. We got married last year (and had a baby) and ever since the wedding we couldn’t be so far from the couple we were before. We argue all the time, he walked out on New Year’s Day, he’s shouted at me and I’ve seen a side I don’t like (I will hold my hands up and own that I’ve not been my best self either at times). Not sure if it’s because of how up/ down things have been but I’ve got no interest in being close or intimate with him even as simple as hugs or kisses. Recently I had a minor disagreement with my mil which she totally blew up and created a false story against me. She sent horrible messages about me to my husband calling me controlling, using my past mh issues against me and being rude about my family. She’s turned all of the family against me and has said they don’t want to see anymore of me. The last few days my husband and I have argued constantly and are barely speaking. He’s said things about my way of parenting that really hurt me. I honestly feel so miserable and low and fed up of how things are. No idea what to do. Been together 4 years and I’m questioning if we are actually compatible for each other

Is being unable to do a nappy ridiculous?!

So my boy is 20 months and we don't have daycare. When I need some time to do something I have to schedule it for a day my mum is not working (she's part time and nearly 70). However she can't really have him for more than an hour or two alone. She can't do his nappies...I admit he is really hard to change now. It's like a wrestling match and if there's poop involved it can take someone having to distract him, hold the phone with dancing fruits playing etc to ensure it doesn't go anywhere!
My partner thinks it's ridiculous she can't do it but I kinda get it....
What do you guys think? Any tips!?

Homemade snacks

Hey! My son loves crunchy snacks like these and the banana weaning wands etc but I was wondering if there was a healthier option or homemade because they ain’t the cheapest things 🥲

Desperate

At this point I just feel desperate for my marriage to go back to not feeling like a war zone. Not even “normal”, just calm for longer than 12 hours. He doesn’t feel appreciated nor empathized with, I don’t feel heard or supported. He uses sex to feel confident in our relationship and I need to feel confident in our relationship to have sex.

It feels like we’re operating on different planets. I miss my marriage and husband. We see a couples counselor as well as our own therapists.

I’m still struggling to let go of resentment from the past. I’m also struggling with how he needs to learn everything “the hard way” despite debatably over communicating with him on my needs.

I definitely spent a lot of time relying on him too much but his avoidance in communication is breaking me. It’s a lot, too much. I’m tired and sad all the time.

I don’t even know if I need advice just not to feel so alone all the time.

Any tips on how to create a routine/schedule around keeping the house clean and tidy?

I feel like I am constantly ironing and tidying up and cleaning. I just about get the sitting room back in order at the end of the day when bubba has gone to bed if I am not tired (a couple of days I might just leave it) but then it's back to a tip the next day. I've tried cleaning when baby is awake but can only do so much before he wants my attention and tried doing as much as I can when he naps but the timings are inconsistent and lately for his first nap I've just laid in bed because I'm just exhausted. I feel like all I do all day is clean and tidy yet never have a tidy house. I can't remember the last time I deep cleaned to be honest. I ust want a day off to myself that doesn't involve cleaning and so I can actually enjoy my mat leave playing with baby boy when we are indoors. Like now when baby boy was taking his second nap I sent time washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen. I haven't even brushed my teeth yet. I will do after he's finished feeding but I get days when I feel so overwhelmed even though I chose this life! And this is just one child and I want another but stuff like this really puts me off if I can't even cope with one!

Weaning

Ive just started weaning my 5 month old today do i automatically do three meals a day or one meal and work up to three?