Realizing how one sided your relationships really are

I am pregnant with my first and struggling with a lot of sudden clarity. It's like I am seeing reality for the first time in so many ways!! Some good some not so easy. I am realizing my friendships are one sided, I am an audience for them and they do not see me. All the social things are for mom's, not really pregnant women with no kids so a lot of those doors feel closed right now for making new friends. I am realizing that I am repeating old patterns, and recognizing a lot of old trauma resurfacing. I have restarted therapy but... therapy doesn't change the present situation ya know? This is hard and it is lonely. I know it's time to be a mom and establish boundaries which I thought I was good at but this is next level.

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I understand. Those realizations are hard to have, but look at it as a positive thing. I have learned to love myself, and be okay with my own company. Many, many friends fell off during my first pregnancy, and I felt so alone. But I rose above that and learned to appreciate being alone because it has allowed me to find myself. Embrace it.

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