dad taking over?

anyone else feel like their babys dad is taking over?
im 4 weeks postpartum, and while im SO grateful that he’s a hands on dad (the bare minimum) i cant help but feel like im literally only here to breastfeed. he lets me sleep more than him but i feel like hes always there, always watching, always taking her from me, always giving me passive aggressive and condescending ‘advice’ ???
ive been feeling like i cant connect with baby and that alongside the stress of breastfeeding is making me so overwhelmed and i dont know what to do.
i guess i just want to know if im the only one? :/

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I wish my husband was more hands on and let me sleep lol but that sucks hes condescending. You got to talk to him about how you feel and what you want!

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Talk about it as soon as you can - he will have been given mixed messages of the “perfect” dad and hopefully just trying to do all of the advice at once.

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Well, if you’re not together, you can always boot him out and tell him that you will make a set schedule

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dad taking over?

anyone else feel like their babys dad is taking over?
im 4 weeks postpartum, and while im SO grateful that he’s a hands on dad (the bare minimum) i cant help but feel like im literally only here to breastfeed. he lets me sleep more than him but i feel like hes always there, always watching, always taking her from me, always giving me passive aggressive and condescending ‘advice’ ???
ive been feeling like i cant connect with baby and that alongside the stress of breastfeeding is making me so overwhelmed and i dont know what to do.
i guess i just want to know if im the only one? :/

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