Rant/vent. Pic of what I almost posted today.

I almost posted this today and honestly still debating on if I should. My ride or die, would be gay for, bestie of a lifetime, and is supposed to be the god mom to my daughter. Hasn’t spoken to me since the day my daughter was born because she doesn’t like my daughter’s father. Him and I went through a rough patch during my pregnancy. He has ptsd and shut down for basically my entire pregnancy. He admitted that he made a mistake and is/has been working on himself to be better. She put me in the position of it’s her or him. I made it a point that if he wanted to have a relationship with our daughter I am going to give him that chance to have one with our daughter. He has made huge progress and I still love him even if what he did wasn’t ok. My other set of people I wanted as god parents also haven’t talked me to because they weren’t informed on when I went into labor. They found out when I announced to everyone that I had my daughter and they got upset because they didn’t get a private message. Baby daddy was about to send a message but I hit send first. I’m just so overwhelmed and tired.

Yes my PPD is under control, yes my daughter and I are safe, yes I have the support of my baby daddy - his family - and my family, I’m just over people who think they know what’s best for my child even though they’ve not bothered to talk to me or see her.

in our community

Inlaws need alone time with baby to bond

Away from you the mother

Seen a lot of in law posts recently

Why are in laws so difficult? Yet my parents dont cause any bother to my partner!

Am I out of order?

So my fiancee says he can’t take 2 hours out of his evening to watch the kids (so I can work) as he still gets work calls and stuff I accepted this (he’s self employed)
But I’ve noticed he will tell his colleagues and clients he’s not available and he won’t take calls whilst he’s watching online church (this is the same time I would have been working)
This has me pretty pissed off if I’m being honest, I love that he’s tuned into church but it feels like he’s picking work and church over spending time with his kids

Not to mention we are not in the best financial situation atm we do get UC but it just covers bills and debts so if I could get an evening job it would deffo help and ease my anxiety of how I’ll do the food shop and stuff like that
I’m not willing to put my kids in nursery as hear too many abuse stories these days but I don’t think it’s too much to ask to play with your own kids for a couple hours in the evening
(My job from before pregnancy was willing to give me flexible working 2 hours a day every day 6-8pm, I would have still been able to cook dinner and put the kids to bed, the only jobs I can get now are wfh evening roles to do after I’ve put the kids to bed which you can imagine are hard to find)

Please tell me I’m valid for feeling salty about this

Mother in laws

I’m really sorry for this long post but I just cannot cope any longer. I’m so done trying to be nice to this woman, I just physically cannot have a relationship with her, she infuriates me so much with her snide comments.

Today I took her to my little boys nursery because she’s been banging on how she doesn’t get time with him. She has such a problem with him going to nursery she can’t get her head round why he needs to go. She turned round to me a few weeks ago and said “you prefer to pay a stranger to look after my grandson over me who’s his family” for context he goes to nursery because that was mine and my partners choice whilst we’re at work, he only goes 3 days a week but he absolutely loves it and all the staff comment on how lovely he is, plus we feel it’s important for him to learn social skills and he’s got some lovely little friends, he’s going to be 2 next month.
My “MIL” works full time still so when exactly would she like me to make time for her to see him when whenever we try to see her she always makes excuses up that she’s busy. And also it is not my job to make sure she has a relationship with him it’s hers.

Anyway we got to the nursery and she’s going to be picking him up every other Monday because she kicked off. I went to the front reception and introduced her as my MIL and she went “not yet I’m not!” As if I’d offended her. So me and my partner are getting married in 3 weeks, I really don’t think it’s necessary for her to say that in front of me and those that don’t know her. Plus what else would you like me to call you then?

She’s always accusing me of taking my son away from her and not wanting her in his life, which is completely untrue. She calls him a “gannet (which means greedy) piggy a fat nacker” which I’m sure is a joke but my partner was called all those nick names growing up and it has scarred him, he has such body issue now as an adult. So I don’t want that around my child.

What annoys me is that in the moment even though I’m boiling about comments she’s said, something in me stops me from biting back. And I need to learn to overcome that because I can’t keep feeling like this.

Anyone else got a mother in law they just cannot stand or can never please, I need some tips because I’m so so struggling to cope. 😢

Anyone who works a 9 to 5 with their child in childcare do you get enough time as a family together? How does this work??

Considering you are home around 6-7pm then you make dinner and go to bed then repeat you basically only get your days off if you and your partner share the same days together as a family

Advice on how to deal with my best friend?

She’s on a very low wage, and keeps saying she wants a new job and wants to better herself, so I send her jobs with training opportunities, and she gets excited and applies for them, but gets nowhere because she uses AI for the applications, despite it explicitly saying they won’t accept them. She doesn’t even edit the AI output, just copy and pastes it. I don’t understand why she keeps doing this, it just seems to be a waste of her time.

I send her jobs with that require travelling up to an hour to get to work, but she won’t do it and will only apply for jobs that are walking distance from her house, which I feel is unrealistic.

With men, she’s miserable and only chooses men who use her as a sex doll and gets upset by this. She’s not stupid, but for some reason over looks clear signs she’s being disrespected or used. She so beautiful and lovely as a person, so caring, but no man takes her seriously. Her current boyfriend is in prison and will be for the next 4 years at least, even he doesn’t treat her right or make any effort despite being locked up all day with no one to talk to. I’m not understanding why she puts herself in this position because these men make her feel really low about herself.

Drugs, she is a recreational user but has recently begun having seizures as a consequence. She had a few episodes recently where she’s woken up covered in blood after biting her tongue during what appears to be a seizure, but won’t stop and won’t go to the doctors.

She sent me a voice message a few days ago and sounds so low, she recently was rejected from another job, her prison boyfriend seems to have ghosted her and her life just seems to be spiralling. I’ve reached out but she hasn’t responded, and I don’t know how to support her or why she can’t get her life together. We’ve both had trauma in our lives and struggled as result, but for some reason, we going in opposite directions and I feel like I’m losing her and I’m going to get a call one day that’s she’s died.

Any advice on deal with a person like this. TIA