Inlaws need alone time with baby to bond

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My in laws had alone but still supervised (I was in the house) time with my son when he turned 15 months. They had a super bond together. No one needs alone time with a baby to bond.

I live with my in laws. I do trust them to have that time with my son. Is it NEEDED? No.

That’s weird, watching baby for a few hours while mom and dad have bonding is a more normal thing to say

They don’t have to be alone to bond with your baby. Red flag.

My inlaws wanted time with my baby away from me as they said they couldn't bond properly while I was there.... I said no!

Depends on age of baby and your relationship with your in laws I think

My in laws didn’t get any alone time with my son till he was a month shy of 2 yrs old when he was walking and talking to communicate what he wanted and needed and even that was hard for us to do bc we don’t like being separated from him

Nope! We have the opposite situation tbh as my in laws won't spend any time at all alone with the kids so we can relax 😂

But regardless, they don't need alone time to bond. Just spending time together regularly will build that up. Anyone insisting on alone time or closed doors with my kids is a walking red flag.

I'm not saying I never leave my babies alone with my in-laws, I do... But this is not a reason

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Am I being too strict for meal time for my little one?

My little boy who is nearly 3 is going through a weird phase of not wanting to feed himself his meals anymore so relies on us to do it - when he’s in nursery he’ll feed himself but that’s it.

At his grandparents if he doesn’t eat a meal, he’ll get an alternative and it’s not always the healthiest. At home, when he doesn’t eat a meal he knows there is no alternative until snack time and we take his food away after 30 mins of he’s not ate it. Even if he asks for something healthy after not eating his meal, I don’t give in and he has to wait until snack time.

He also isn’t allowed to have any treats/dessert until a meal is finished and I get snide throw away comments from my MIL saying I’m so glad you’re not my mum and dad.

I know I’m possibly strict and as his parents it should be up to me to decide how to raise him (which I’m doing), but I’d like to know how others approach this and if it’s the best way of handling this situation?! 🙃

Posting as anon in case if my MIL somehow sees this haha

UK families - how much is your weekly shopping?

Even better if you can tell me how many people it feeds in your household.
Our food alone is about £90-£100 for a week, but then I go to cheaper shops for cleaning supplies, snacks for the kids, fruit ect and I think that’s where I keep over spending.
But then I do have two toddlers who just eat so so much fruit.

Whos looking after your LOs while in labour?

Just collecting some thoughts! I've only ever had my mum for childcare, and she's travelling when I'm due, so I'm wondering what alternatives people are using for childcare for the existing little ones when you're due your next! We'd book a babysitter but not sure if we could just call a sitter last min when the baby's decided to arrive!

Thank you :)

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My son has always been a huge mama’s boy, but lately whenever there is tension, he runs straight to his dad. I know he’s just a child and is probably responding to the situation, but it still breaks my heart. Sometimes I’m scared that if our relationship keeps getting worse, I’ll start feeling like I’m losing the closeness and bond I’ve always had with my son.

That thought terrifies me, because my son is everything to me. Right now I feel emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, and afraid of losing the one relationship that means the most in my life.