took my child out of nursery, due to the place being absolutely awful and feeling my child wasnt safe there but now im being told to not send my child to any nurseries and wait til starts school when 4, got just under a year. BUT I feel like such a failure of a mother, not providing my child with social interactions and not making friends, family and friends with children dont really both with us either. am I a bad mum for not trying to put my child back into a nursery or should I just wait it out and keep teaching my child myself and get them ready for school?
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As someone who works in a nursery I think a child is best supported at home where they get more 1 to 1 and they're attention doesn't need to be shared. And social interactions don't just need to come from nursery, you can take you child on outings and stuff where they can meet other children and make friends and stuff. I don't think you're a bad mum at all and I love how much you care about your child's well being ❤️

Omg, you are not a failure!! You've done what's best for your child. There are so many activities for children, just take your child to these, he or she can play, socialise over there. So don't stress over a nursery 😉. We chose not to start nursery at all, so every day we do different activities, where my daughter spends time with other children

Definitely not a failure! You made a decision on what would be best for your child. Imo bluey does a pretty solid job on teaching social skills and tbh I enjoy watching it too 😅. But you can bring your LO to a playground. At a playground, developmentally they're using their imagination and building gross motor skills along with social skills. You might even meet a parent that you connect well with and make your own friend. I learned some things about other cultures while chatting with another parent at a playground while our girls played together. There's nothing wrong with keeping your child home with you, you're doing great.

Not a failure at all. If you want to send them back to a different a nursery then you do that but if you don’t want to then you don’t have to do it😊 Just do what feels right. If you don’t send them to nursery try and go to toddler groups or soft plays.
I work in a nursery myself and I’ve seen both sides of it. I’ve seen children that absolutely thrive from going to nurseries and there’s children who don’t thrive as they aren’t ready which is also absolutely fine😊x

Social interactions are so overrated in my opinion. I don’t have many friends. I didn’t growing up either
I rather keep my child home where I know he is loved and being cared for properly
We go to the playgrounds and local places and he engages just fine with strangers

You are not a failure ❤️ we aren't doing nursery at all! We just go to storytime at the library, play groups, playground and park