What would you do?

So my mum got a digital frame off my brother and his wife for her birthday a month ago and she put it on the TV cabinet. We visit often and she knows my audhd 4 year old touches things at his level and is still learning. He has touched stuff before that where actually toys for him but that where to have a controlled use and she has gotten cranky when he has touched them.

Anyway, he pulled it down, she yelled out for him to stop mutliple times and then screamed at him when he didn't listen.

I was busy, which is why she and my Dad had him.

I told her not to scream at him and she said she had to because he doesn't listen to being told to stop. Somethong very well known and that we are working on.

I told her no she fucking didn't.

Went and picked up my son, carried him to a different room and comforted him as he was histerical. Refused to go to my mum for ages but he did and she talked to him and apologised.

He was still really upset and I took him home because so was I.

Anyway, I just found out they can't get it to work and I apologised and explained that maybe a different location as he does visit often and when his younger cousin is a bit older, she will also get into stuff.

Mum yelled at me that she only had 2 options, there or the dining table.

I apologised again and said I can reimburse and she snapped that I would be.

I explained that while I would I didn't know how much it was and may not be able to afford it right now.

She got mad and yelled at me that they have already paid for stuff my kiddo broke. That was our living room window (they own our flat) and we offered to pay but my Dad said no, so we paid nearly half and they covered the rest.

Anyway, I told her I would contact my brother and ask how much it was and ended the conversation.

I am angry that she seems angry at me, angry that she screamed at him ans frustrated that I now need to outlay money we may not have.

I feel like she dislikes me and resents my sweet kiddo. It fucking sucks.

I have reached out to my brother so I'll see what happens when he replies.

I feel so angry, upset and guilty.

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UPDATE - my brother responded and said that he would look yp the cost as he doesn't remembee off the top of his head, but it's not just about the cost but the time and effort.

Like I already feel like shit and I apologised to them in the text. What I meant to do with that.

I responded and said I knew that but I can't replace time or effort and that I was truly sorry.

I also told him that mum had said it was working again.

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UPDATE - my brother responded and said that he would look yp the cost as he doesn't remembee off the top of his head, but it's not just about the cost but the time and effort.

Like I already feel like shit and I apologised to them in the text. What I meant to do with that.

I responded and said I knew that but I can't replace time or effort and that I was truly sorry.

I also told him that mum had said it was working again.

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Honestly I wouldn’t replace it if it’s completely out of price range, I would maybe get one you can afford or not bother at all, kids are kids and they will continue to break stuff, it’s a well known fact.
I would minimise contact if you can honestly, doesn’t sound like the healthiest relationship

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