I hate MY PARTNER SO MUCH

Y’all, I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. It feels like my partner keeps pushing my buttons until I react angrily, and it’s happening in front of my son. That’s the part that hurts the most.

My son has always been a huge mama’s boy, but lately whenever there is tension, he runs straight to his dad. I know he’s just a child and is probably responding to the situation, but it still breaks my heart. Sometimes I’m scared that if our relationship keeps getting worse, I’ll start feeling like I’m losing the closeness and bond I’ve always had with my son.

That thought terrifies me, because my son is everything to me. Right now I feel emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, and afraid of losing the one relationship that means the most in my life.

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Leaving

I'm leaving my husband. I can't do it anymore. I've decided that I'd rather be a single mother than a married single mother. The terrible part is that due to his anger issues, I have to do it secretly. Any tips on escaping an abusive partner?

I'm already looking for a new place in a different part of the state where I have more support of extended family and friends.

I had to breakdown and tell my mom everything and she and my family feel it is best that I go to the other city because I don't have anyone here except him. He has been verbally and physically (throwing objects and shoving) abusive so I have to basically plan and escape because telling him straight up might result in a situation that would land him straight in jail. I really don't want to do that to him.

I do love him but as a mother of a little girl I have to show her better than what I'm currently experiencing.

Blueberry Baby 🫐

My baby is almost 9M and absolutely loves blueberries. Not strawberries, not raspberries; just blueberries!

Food he hates are: lentils, eggs and sardines. Now I just hid it under blueberries. Is it weird to eat sardines and blueberries- of course! But does he eat it- hell yeah.

At this point I could hide a mountain under blueberries 🫐 😂 and he would gulp it all.

Do your kids have a particular food obsession?

(Picture from last year, when I was plucking blueberries)

Nursery's or childminder

What's the pros and cons of nursery and childminder

I'm not sure sure which one to send my child to and want to hear some options from other moms

Help

I know this might sound childish but I’m struggling with my mental health I don’t like being alone my boyfriend has been out all day and I’ve been home all by myself I have no friends or family here and I can’t stand being alone anymore god I feel stupid for sobbing right now but I can’t stand the feeling of being alone and I want him home but he thinks I’m just trying to keep him from his friends.

Was I wrong?

So my baby daddy has visitation under my discretion right, his problem is he always asked me last minute meaning the day of middle of the day or at night time like 8 PM or 8:30 PM and ask for a video call knowing you need to ask in advance to schedule something because we’re not accommodating last-minute accommodations like that. He doesn’t respect anybody else’s time and he doesn’t do anything to begin with so we’re not bending our schedule for his two second appearance you know?

I gave him the opportunity to have a visit briefly this Sunday two days ago and I told him that he can come on the afternoon on Sunday and then I will be home after 1 PM from church and he suggested that a more specific time 1:30 PM to 2 PM would be a good time for him to come by and I agreed so as far as I’m concerned 1:30 PM/2 PM was the agreed-upon time??? so when I didn’t get a message around 1:30 PM because he did say I will let you know when I’m on my way he literally lives not even 20 minutes away and then of course at 1:50 PM. I checked the parenting app and there still wasn’t a message from him. I’m not begging him to show up. He’s the one asking for visitation! At 2 o’clock I still didn’t see a message and I needed to go run some errands. I go to the pharmacy so at 2:03 PM I left and went to the pharmacy and apparently he sent me a message at 2:08 PM saying that he had just left and just barely got off the freeway mind you I said it takes him 15 minutes to get to me… so of course at 2:08 PM you’re telling me you just left the house and then at 2:20 when I read that and responded that I did not get any communication from him that he was on the way or that he was still coming past 8 o’clock this morning because at 8 AM this morning he just said he was going to let me know when he was on his way and then you barely text me at 2:08 PM outside of the suggested visitation timeframe?!? like it’s almost 80° today. You’re damn right. I left the house with a toddler to go about my business. I’m not waiting all day for you and I don’t feel like I’m wrong. I waited and I got no communication and as far as I’m concerned, you didn’t text me until 2:08 PM that you had just barely got on the freeway and then started throwing a tantrum at me saying that I’m the one not communicating that I should’ve said something if I was leaving💀💀 like huh? He was complaining arguing that on the problem and that he’s never gonna get to see her when in reality all you had to do was communicate that you were running late or that you wouldn’t be there until 2:30 PM even still if I had something I need to do I would’ve just told you you would’ve just had a short visit but at least I would’ve known you were still coming so I don’t feel like I’m wrong, but of course I guess I’m the bad guy once again.

MIL

Curious how everyone would react, I notice my MIL always sends me little jabs. My husband after we had a baby started doing running from the odd 5k to recently a marathon. He loves doing park runs and I am always there to support him, we went out for dinner with his mum yesterday and within 2 minutes of sitting down his mother in a sarcastic voice said ‘ are you ever going to do any running or just living life through xyz ( her son ) ? In the moment I kind of just awkwardly laughed and put my head down and rather than standing up for myself just said oh god could barely run 200m 😂 then afterwards thought what a flipping cheek of this woman! I’ve had arguments with his family in the past so trying to just let things slide and not be confrontational but I equally think like what is even your problem! I however abit sick of the jabs? Am I going mad?