Was I wrong?

So my baby daddy has visitation under my discretion right, his problem is he always asked me last minute meaning the day of middle of the day or at night time like 8 PM or 8:30 PM and ask for a video call knowing you need to ask in advance to schedule something because we’re not accommodating last-minute accommodations like that. He doesn’t respect anybody else’s time and he doesn’t do anything to begin with so we’re not bending our schedule for his two second appearance you know?

I gave him the opportunity to have a visit briefly this Sunday two days ago and I told him that he can come on the afternoon on Sunday and then I will be home after 1 PM from church and he suggested that a more specific time 1:30 PM to 2 PM would be a good time for him to come by and I agreed so as far as I’m concerned 1:30 PM/2 PM was the agreed-upon time??? so when I didn’t get a message around 1:30 PM because he did say I will let you know when I’m on my way he literally lives not even 20 minutes away and then of course at 1:50 PM. I checked the parenting app and there still wasn’t a message from him. I’m not begging him to show up. He’s the one asking for visitation! At 2 o’clock I still didn’t see a message and I needed to go run some errands. I go to the pharmacy so at 2:03 PM I left and went to the pharmacy and apparently he sent me a message at 2:08 PM saying that he had just left and just barely got off the freeway mind you I said it takes him 15 minutes to get to me… so of course at 2:08 PM you’re telling me you just left the house and then at 2:20 when I read that and responded that I did not get any communication from him that he was on the way or that he was still coming past 8 o’clock this morning because at 8 AM this morning he just said he was going to let me know when he was on his way and then you barely text me at 2:08 PM outside of the suggested visitation timeframe?!? like it’s almost 80° today. You’re damn right. I left the house with a toddler to go about my business. I’m not waiting all day for you and I don’t feel like I’m wrong. I waited and I got no communication and as far as I’m concerned, you didn’t text me until 2:08 PM that you had just barely got on the freeway and then started throwing a tantrum at me saying that I’m the one not communicating that I should’ve said something if I was leaving💀💀 like huh? He was complaining arguing that on the problem and that he’s never gonna get to see her when in reality all you had to do was communicate that you were running late or that you wouldn’t be there until 2:30 PM even still if I had something I need to do I would’ve just told you you would’ve just had a short visit but at least I would’ve known you were still coming so I don’t feel like I’m wrong, but of course I guess I’m the bad guy once again.

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Feeling miserable

My relationship with my husbands the worst it has ever been. We got married last year (and had a baby) and ever since the wedding we couldn’t be so far from the couple we were before. We argue all the time, he walked out on New Year’s Day, he’s shouted at me and I’ve seen a side I don’t like (I will hold my hands up and own that I’ve not been my best self either at times). Not sure if it’s because of how up/ down things have been but I’ve got no interest in being close or intimate with him even as simple as hugs or kisses. Recently I had a minor disagreement with my mil which she totally blew up and created a false story against me. She sent horrible messages about me to my husband calling me controlling, using my past mh issues against me and being rude about my family. She’s turned all of the family against me and has said they don’t want to see anymore of me. The last few days my husband and I have argued constantly and are barely speaking. He’s said things about my way of parenting that really hurt me. I honestly feel so miserable and low and fed up of how things are. No idea what to do. Been together 4 years and I’m questioning if we are actually compatible for each other

Is being unable to do a nappy ridiculous?!

So my boy is 20 months and we don't have daycare. When I need some time to do something I have to schedule it for a day my mum is not working (she's part time and nearly 70). However she can't really have him for more than an hour or two alone. She can't do his nappies...I admit he is really hard to change now. It's like a wrestling match and if there's poop involved it can take someone having to distract him, hold the phone with dancing fruits playing etc to ensure it doesn't go anywhere!
My partner thinks it's ridiculous she can't do it but I kinda get it....
What do you guys think? Any tips!?

What can I talk to my friends about

So I’ve got amazing Gang of girl mates. We’ve known each other forever but we’re off out for some food tonight and I’m nervous.

I was the last to have a baby and he’s only 9 months old so he’s very much my life right now. I’m not back at work, baby chat is literally all I have in me. All their kids are between 5-9 years old and they are much more practiced at being out and they just have way more things happening in their lives other than just being a mum.

I know my friends don’t care but I do. The last few times I’ve met with them I’ve felt really lost in the chat, I felt like all I did was talk about bottles, feeding and bedtime routines. I left feeling really blughhh and I felt like I might have been a bit over powering because I don’t get out much or see many people while I’m still on mat leave. So when I do see people I get verbal diarrhoea and I also feel like I left not knowing anything else about the other girls, probably coz of my big off load and clearly I just dominated the conversation about my baby. Which let’s face it, is very boring.

I felt a bit embarrassed and I don’t want to do it again.

Can anyone relate or give me some tips? Other than keep my big mouth closed I don’t know what else to do 🙈

House work 😢

Hoping someone can relate.
Does anyone feel like there house is never tidy? I feel like I hoover then the floors a mess again, always piles of washing. I only have one baby! Feel like I can’t keep on top of it but everyone else’s houses look pristine?

How?

Anyone else’s toddler still not into food?

My daughter is almost 23 months and is not interested in food. She constantly wants milk and does not care about eating. I’ve spoken to gps and health visitors etc but they said to keep trying and she’s gaining weight so they’re not concerned. She’s always been quite low in weight and her centile is around 25th which has improved from her being 9th but I still really worry about her and feel like I’m failing

Potty training help please im about to kill myself

I have 2 kids in diapers. A 4.5 year old on the spectrum and a NT 22 months old. Im trying the no pants no diaper nothing method. Its been 2 days. I dont have much hope for my 4.5 yr old but i am having the hardest time with my 22 months old. She understands everything. She tells me when she peed or pooped and gets a diaper to get changed and doesnt like to be bothered when shes pooping and hides. When i ask where pee and poo goes, she says potty. But after 2 days, i still havent gotten 1 pee in the potty. I sit with her every 30 min because she pees on the floor every 30 min. I will sit with her with toys and stuff for 1 hour and she wont go. As soon as shes off the potty, she will pee on the floor. If i catch her peeing and grab her to bring her to the potty, she will stop peeing and hold her pee until shes off the potty and finish it on the floor. She also finds it funny and starts laughing. Is this normal? How long will it take for get it? My friend said shes not ready but she is showing signs and i cannot have 2 grown kids in diapers. Also if anyone has tips to potty train an autistic kid, please share. I am losing my mind. I cry everyday over this. The pressure from family and friends because my kids arent potty trained is getting heavy.