Advice on how to deal with my best friend?

She’s on a very low wage, and keeps saying she wants a new job and wants to better herself, so I send her jobs with training opportunities, and she gets excited and applies for them, but gets nowhere because she uses AI for the applications, despite it explicitly saying they won’t accept them. She doesn’t even edit the AI output, just copy and pastes it. I don’t understand why she keeps doing this, it just seems to be a waste of her time.

I send her jobs with that require travelling up to an hour to get to work, but she won’t do it and will only apply for jobs that are walking distance from her house, which I feel is unrealistic.

With men, she’s miserable and only chooses men who use her as a sex doll and gets upset by this. She’s not stupid, but for some reason over looks clear signs she’s being disrespected or used. She so beautiful and lovely as a person, so caring, but no man takes her seriously. Her current boyfriend is in prison and will be for the next 4 years at least, even he doesn’t treat her right or make any effort despite being locked up all day with no one to talk to. I’m not understanding why she puts herself in this position because these men make her feel really low about herself.

Drugs, she is a recreational user but has recently begun having seizures as a consequence. She had a few episodes recently where she’s woken up covered in blood after biting her tongue during what appears to be a seizure, but won’t stop and won’t go to the doctors.

She sent me a voice message a few days ago and sounds so low, she recently was rejected from another job, her prison boyfriend seems to have ghosted her and her life just seems to be spiralling. I’ve reached out but she hasn’t responded, and I don’t know how to support her or why she can’t get her life together. We’ve both had trauma in our lives and struggled as result, but for some reason, we going in opposite directions and I feel like I’m losing her and I’m going to get a call one day that’s she’s died.

Any advice on deal with a person like this. TIA

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Meals

I have no idea what I’m supposed to be feeding my 9 month old. I look online and it’s recipes with loads of ingredients and I don’t wanna spend hours in the kitchen when it’ll probably end up on the floor. Any ideas for normal meal ideas

Inlaws need alone time with baby to bond

Away from you the mother

SAHM and Working husband

Hi just wondering what everyone thinks of this situation I have and if it's normal or not. Since my husband and me married 4+ years ago I have worked for a year and then got pregnant 3 times in a row (planned of course) and for 3+ years already at home. We have split our major responsibilities into him making all the earning and me doing majority of the tasks with the kids and household. My husband never really feels like going out with his friends even though he has very good friends, he always says he prefers to be with me after his work day. His hobbies he also kind of puts aside, he is full of interests, hobbies and skills and he always says that he can't do anything because he "can't set his family behind himself and he never has time etc" which in my opinion is not entirely true, I think if he wanted to, he could make time for these things. So basically all he does is work all day then come home and help me with the rest of the stuff that needs doing and because I don't drive yet he is doing lots of the things that require a car, e.g I send him to buy things, pick things up from somewhere, drive me somewhere where it's inconvenient to get to by public transport etc etc. Me on the other hand, I do lots of things like going out to have a brunch here, going out with our kids to the soft play there, every week I meet my friends and we do something nice together and he drives me and picks me up and is with the kids during it and besides that always goes out of his way to make my life more comfortable by putting himself last.

I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and have a UTI so am in pain and am going to the hospital. My husband's business partner is very upset with him that he took off lots of time from work to help me with things so I told my husytgat it's fine, I will take the bus (1 hour ride) to the hospital with the kids and he shouldn't stretch his business too much and he told me that he still asked his partner about if he can leave work early and be with the kids and that his partner was angry with him. In the end, one hour before I had to leave he wrote me a message that he is on the way to the kids and I can go to the hospital by myself so apparently he fought for the agreement to do it.

It's very nice and I feel very loved but obviously he often complains to me that he does everything for the family and me and that he doesn't have a life of his own and that he feels so stretched etc etc but I feel like most of the times it's him doing it actively to himself. So I feel very taken care of on one hand but very guilty often too because of his complaints sometimes. I don't know what I am supposed to think of that that he argued with his business partner and does an upsetting thing to him like leaving early so that I am more comfortable in hospital. And tomorrow he will bring me to my friends and he always says how happy he is that I go but what should we do about him feeling the way he feels sometimes?

Concerned

The way these books and videos have yall afraid to take care or do anything with you little ones are insane! Yall parents didn’t have access to none of this and yall turned out amazing!!!! Yall are going to have a nervous breakdown trying worry about what a book say! LISTEN TO YOUR PEDIATRICIAN! And mom (only if she was a good example of a great parent) and SCREENTIME be having yall in a chokehold smh LET THOSE KIDS BE KIDS!!!!

My first night out

Feeling a little sad and regretful. My son is 14 months and long story short I’ve never left him with anyone watching him. His dad and I moved back in together (long story) and the other night one of our friends called and asked for a DD from the bar 10 minutes down the road. They both suggested I go and hang out for a little while after baby goes to sleep and then drive him home (he lives on the same property as we do). Not sure why I thought it was a good idea to try my first outing by myself while my son was asleep, given that no one else has ever rocked him to sleep or been with him in the night before but his dad convinced me it’d be just fine. He’s also never slept through the night so I knew he’d wake at some point. I went out for about an hour before he called me telling me he woke up and wasn’t going back to sleep. I obviously had to wait to tab out and made it back about 30 minutes after he told me to come home and apparently baby was crying almost the whole time. He said he would get him to fall back asleep for a minute or two before he woke up crying mama again. I know it’s bound to happen at some point but I just feel really discouraged that my first outing was kind of a fail. I wouldn’t have even gone had my friend not asked for a ride home from the bar, but it is what it is. How do you ever get used to leaving your babies?? How do you trust anyone to be able to soothe them? I’ve been wanting to go get my nails done, and thought that would be a good ‘first outing without baby’ during the day. But I really don’t want to put myself in a position that I can’t leave immediately if he needs me…

Play break

Is it rude if I tell my toddler i don't want to play and need a break. I do enjoy playing with my toddler,but every day I play with her to the point where I need a break. I keep telling her to play with her blocks magnets, eggs or her other toys. But she still wants to play. I can't help,but to sigh in annoys. I just need a hour of no playing. The only way I been able to have me time is to put on the tv,but I don't want to keep relaying on it. Am writing this while she is next to me playing with her cooking toys, I guess that is her playing on her own,but I just don't want her playing next to me because it feels like she is still asking me to play. And she is asking what am doing. I don't want to be rude to her