Am I out of order?

So my fiancee says he can’t take 2 hours out of his evening to watch the kids (so I can work) as he still gets work calls and stuff I accepted this (he’s self employed)
But I’ve noticed he will tell his colleagues and clients he’s not available and he won’t take calls whilst he’s watching online church (this is the same time I would have been working)
This has me pretty pissed off if I’m being honest, I love that he’s tuned into church but it feels like he’s picking work and church over spending time with his kids

Not to mention we are not in the best financial situation atm we do get UC but it just covers bills and debts so if I could get an evening job it would deffo help and ease my anxiety of how I’ll do the food shop and stuff like that
I’m not willing to put my kids in nursery as hear too many abuse stories these days but I don’t think it’s too much to ask to play with your own kids for a couple hours in the evening
(My job from before pregnancy was willing to give me flexible working 2 hours a day every day 6-8pm, I would have still been able to cook dinner and put the kids to bed, the only jobs I can get now are wfh evening roles to do after I’ve put the kids to bed which you can imagine are hard to find)

Please tell me I’m valid for feeling salty about this

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Two hours is reasonable. You already said the babies will be put to bed so he really just has to be home

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