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So I’m a SAHM so uk I have my kid most the time lol however my MIL runs and in home day care so one day a week sometimes twice if I have something to do that she really can’t come with me for a few hours she goes over there and she loves it she gets to make friends and plays with other kids and gets to socialize sense uk that’s good for them and my daughter absolutely loves my mil ( her Mimi) and my mil lovesssss times with her absolutely spoils her rotten lol so like twice a month on a friday or Saturday she stays the night with my mil we have never had any problems or anything it’s a great system I can get my stuff done and my husband and I get a night or two a month of some us time and we go out to eat or something. I have recently been told by a girl I’m no longer friends with that I’m a “bad mom” because I let someone watch her even though I stay home. She is also a SAHM and absolutely refuses for anyone to watch her kids but then complains 24/7 about how she wants a break and stuff her oldest is also 2 and doesn’t know how to play or socialize with other kids because she is lit ever around any other kids until last week now she’s around her new baby brother she is not a nice kid she cusses like a sailor and she thinks it’s okay to hit push punch you name it because her mom lets her do it to them and never corrects her. So I’m kinda confused on how I’m in the wrong for letting me mil watch my daughter and socializing her with other kids buttttt okay🫣

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Sounds like she’s jealous tbh

She needs to swallow her pride. You aren’t in the wrong! Good thing you aren’t friends with her anymore, bc she sounds like an envious weird “friend”.

This weekend will be the 5th weekend in a row that my daughter has been with someone other than me. First two weekends she stayed home with my partner whilst I went out, the next she stayed with MIL and I went out, last weekend she stayed with my mum and me and my partner stayed in and this weekend my mums taking her out and we’re staying in. Take all the breaks you can get and don’t feel bad about it x

Also not to mention the fact I’m 31 weeks pregnant and I have HG so some days I need a little extra help lol my husband doesn’t have the kinda job where he can just take off and stuff so if my mil wants to help I’m GLADLY taking her help lol

I have recently started my eldest in nursery 2 mornings a week but before that I was a solo SAHM 24/7 and I would NEVER judge someone who has that trust to let someone have their babies. I wish I could because I know I need the break but I also have issues (I’m working on starting my eldest at nursery was the start) where I get ridiculously anxious leaving them. It’s due to trauma but I can’t wait to get to the day I can relax and let someone else help.

This is definitely jealousy.

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