Dilemmaaaa

so I have twin 8month old babies and it’s my first cousin’s wedding on sunday, from 10am until very late… partner’s parents are going to babysit, and me and partner were going to stay until about 6pm… but then the dinner part doesn’t even start until 7pm…! we can’t ask partner’s parents to stay much later as they’re already coming round early in the morning. my cousin is begging at least for me to stay for the dinner but I feel bad to let partner go home alone and put the twins to bed (it’s a lotttttt)… but then a) my cousin said she only gets married once… b) his parents will still be there to help… c) it’s one night and if it was other way round I would do it for him ……… but a) what if they don’t go to sleep… b) his parents judge if i am out late… c) what if he resents me after (he is like that) …
Any advice or suggestions or persuasion tips pleeeeeease comment!!!

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For me it would depend on how late the dinner is going to run because at a lot of weddings there are speeches and things. So it could run for a while and make it awkward to leave mid dinner.

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You’re going to a wedding - your in laws cannot judge you for being out late for a wedding.

But the other points are valid. If you’re close to this cousin, you’ll make it work.

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I'll ask you this- if it was someone important to HIM, would there be any question? Or would you be saying "of course you should stay and enjoy it for as long as you want". If he can't handle bedtime for his own children with help from two other people then he needs to have a good look at himself.

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