Don’t have sex unless he’s prepared to be a dad

Might be an unpopular opinion, but I think women shouldn’t sleep with a guy unless you’ve discussed how they feel about becoming a dad. Doesn’t have to be “what would you do if I got pregnant?” just a basic conversation to gauge if they are even interested in having kids or not.

Because if they say it’s a firm no, and you get pregnant, be prepared for the possibility that he will not man up and be there for you or your child. We’ve seen and heard about this exact scenario too many times sadly.

Now I’m not shaming any women who have found themselves in this position. It’s not their fault, it’s the deadbeat guy’s fault if he leaves after getting a woman pregnant. But we as women can at least going forward set a higher standard for who we choose to sleep with and not waste time with someone who tells us upfront they want nothing to do with becoming a dad.

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.
Add a comment
Avatar

Forgot to add: I’m aware not all women want kids. In this context what I really mean is don’t have unprotected sex.

Avatar

I’m having an abortion if I get pregnant so there’s nothing to discuss

Read more on Peanut

Trending

in our community

Dont know what to do. SAHM wanting to leave husband

Wanting to leave husband and take my kids with me across state lines to live with family. Have never really had a job. Every time I tried to get one he would quit talking to me until I left the job. Always told me he was the provider and I was a stay at home mom. But now its getting bad between us. He gets jealous of our kids getting to spend time with me, he has mood swings like no other. He is very back and forth on everything making it unstable for the kids. There is so much more, but I feel stuck because of having no job or way to support my kids. Let alone a lawyer that costs $6,000. Any advice or suggestions hoping would be helpful.

Avatar

2

17

Would this be an ok present/replacement?

Im the one that posted last night about the husband who wanted anal hookup /3some...

Im thinking of getting him an anal sex doll.. would that be an ok present/ replacement for his request

Avatar

2

21

Finding motherhood lonely

This is my second child and I find being a mother incredibly lonely. I don't have many friends they all work full time or live a long drive away so I don't see them that much. All my family work full time and don't have kids.

I feel isolated at times, I would say I'm an introvert so I don't tend to leave the house much, but if someone was to communicate with me first I will talk back I'm incredibly shy at times no knowing what to say.

I am 32 years old and I feel like it's hard to make friends at this age.

I take my 4 month old to a baby group on Fridays for an hour but it's not the kind of group where you can talk to other mums. I want to force myself to go to more baby groups in the week but I'm so anxious about going somewhere new.

I feel like she's a bit behind as she doesn't see other babies much to watch them.

Avatar

2

4

Am I wrong?

Me and my husband been married for a few years now and when we first started dated I worked full time as a manager of this company and he was in law enforcement he told me he wanted a baby and he wanted to take care of me so I can finish school I agreed on the condition I would stay home to care for the baby as I don't trust anyone to watch my kid he agreed so I agreed to have his baby on this condition. So I het pregnant and a few months in something happened that he ended up leaving his job and we started to struggle financially. I had our baby a few weeks ago and he keeps pressuring me to get a job I know we need the help and I don't mind working but he knew the only way I would have his baby is if I was a sahm so am I wrong for resenting him a little oh and also im supposed to work overnight but im the only one that gets up at night he's a great dad in the daytime while he's awake but at night he doesnt even flinch when our baby cries so I don't really even trust working overnight because im not sure he will take care of our baby am I wrong for thsi?

Avatar

3

Hey!

Looking for some friends who are yappers like me ! I’m a 27 year old stay at home mom to a 6 month old baby girl 🩷

Avatar

3

4

Are friends really be allowed to say anything to each other?

Or are there subjects that should be off limits and judgments not voiced out loud?

Avatar

4

Read more on Peanut