Dont know what to do. SAHM wanting to leave husband

What does he do other than stop talking to you when you get a job?

If you don’t work; and are on Medicaid or other public assistance programs you can apply for a job waiver to file for divorce.

Honey, if he's abusing you, gather all the proof you have, make a separate bank account. Then you get to planning on when you can safely leave him. If a friend or family member can help you get out, call them immediately. If he's tracking your phone, get a burner.

you really can't take the kids across state lines without legal help. ☹️ i'm so sorry to say that but you need to know so you don't do it and then have it used against you later. focus your time on finding resources - legal aid, housing/emergency support for women leaving controlling husbands, etc. there should be local and state resources that can help. so sorry you're going through this good luck

If I was in your position I wouldn’t divorce him yet. Divorce and custody can get nasty you need to fight from a position of strength. Once you file you can’t take kids out of state.

You could bring the kids with you to “visit” your family then stay longer and longer, after a few months you’ll have residency and the new state will have custody over your kids..then you can file for divorce and custody.

This is a long time plan where you have to act like everything is FINE for now.

Also, you will be taking the kids away from their father so you gotta make sure it’s right for them.

i would open another account and start sticking money away. get a job even if he bullies you for it. and see if your family can help financially even if you can't stay with them. im sorry this is such an unfair situation :(

Even if the abuse isn't physical, your kids have been witnesses to the verbal abuse. There's definitely financial abuse going on from the sounds of it. I would get in contact with my family ASAP

Thanks for all the advice ladies. Will continue saving as much as possible in the time being. Hate feeling so stuck.