WE ARE MARRIED BUT I STILL DONT TRUST HIM!!

Sooo… I’ve been in a relationship with my now husband for 2 years and we just got married about a month ago. This relationship was the best thing that’s ever happened to me and he confirmed it himself after being cheated on in previous relationships. The first year we couldn’t say away from each other to the point he promised to marry me. Fast forward 2 years in I had a gut feeling and went through his phone and found he was flirting with over 10 women. (I still remember all those chats as if it was yesterday) I confronted him, he was sincere and apologised and vowed never to do it again. 2 months later I found out he was talking to his ex basically talking about how he could have done things differently. Again I confronted him he apologised and promised to never do it again. I forgave him… 😩another month or 2 later I discovered he was having sexual chats with a women basically miles away and on top of that had started talking with another ex of his cause she owed her money and was organising to get it back by driving to her soon. Again I forgave him but the relationship was never the same we tried fixing it and it seems like he has changed and he even proposed and vowed to be loyal but I can’t trust him anymore. How do I go about this😭😭

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Maybe I have an unpopular opinion

Why does it matter so much to others if you are straight, gay, lesbian, bi, nonbinary etc (yes, I know there are several others, but I gave up a while ago keeping up with all the variations). If you are not harming anyone or anything and are not pushing your lifestyle on someone else, THEN WHO CARES. I've seen so many posts saying "does this make me gay or bi" Honestly, who says sexuality is linear? If you like it and it's not hurting anyone then go for it. You only have one life.

Now I have to admit I do have an issue when you identify as an animal or alien or something like that.

Don’t like sex

I don’t want to have sex with my husband anymore because it’s boring and has become a chore. But at the same time I don’t want him masturbating. I feel so conflicted. I even hate it when he cums in his sleep because I’m wondering what he’s dreaming about!

Tonight he was trying to initiate and I just didn’t want to because I’m on my period (which takes up half the month - another story for another day) and he fell asleep and an hour later was up and masturbating in the bathroom. It lasted like 5 seconds so he must have been desperate.

I just don’t know what to do, I love my husband but I don’t really like sex that much. I don’t want him to get bored and find someone else to do it with so I’m pretty stuck! Does anyone else feel the same?

Lost of interest

Hi. I don’t know what I should do… My husband and I rarely have sex, and when we do, it isn’t good for me and it lasts maybe two minutes. I’ve honestly lost interest in sex. Some days, even giving him a kiss feels really difficult for me. I’m starting to feel really scared about it… Has anyone been in the same situation? Any advice?

Returning to work

Really stuck with what the right thing to do is. I’m due back in a few weeks with my 1 year old son starting nursery. He and I have not been seperate this whole year and I am dreading letting him go. Previously I worked 40hrs a week and have now dropped to 19.5 over 3 days so I’m barely going to be earning anything. Even after funding it could still be over £200 a month nursery fees. It just seems so pointless earning so little to pay someone else to care for my child. I’ve tried applying for jobs that are early morning or evening to bulk up my hours away from when my child’s awake but I’ve not yet been offered interviews. A friend of mine recently started her lo at nursery and has pulled them out after a few weeks as the cost wasn’t working out for them. Not sure what alternatives there are or how to know what’s right for all of us

Embarrassed

I’ve been a stay at home mom for 15 years and am really shy and don’t really like interacting with people cuz I get awkward and don’t know what to say but with having older kids I have to interact with friends/girlfriends parents and after being with a 6 month old baby all day it’s like I don’t know how to talk to adults
:( just venting thanks for listening

Am I a bad friend for denying being a Godmother to my best friend’s child??

I really need to know if I’m in the wrong here… okay here it goes. Years back my best friend got pregnant mind you this was her second pregnancy after miscarrying her first, which she never announced it to me until she was 7-8months in. That broke me because we shared everything… so with her second one I knew right off the bat, which brought us a bit closer then ever. Months after giving birth, she asked me to be her baby’s Godmother and at that time you guys have to understand I was dealing with a lot I just launched my business, I was in school, I made debts after debts It really was a blessing but the busiest part of my life. I had politely declined and stated my reasons and she just said “okay” with nothing else to say. We haven’t spoke since that day marking it 2years and boy I miss her soo much but I don’t know whether what I did was wrong enough for me to start and apologise first and make things right, or should I just leave things as is?? Help!!