Don’t like sex

I don’t want to have sex with my husband anymore because it’s boring and has become a chore. But at the same time I don’t want him masturbating. I feel so conflicted. I even hate it when he cums in his sleep because I’m wondering what he’s dreaming about!

Tonight he was trying to initiate and I just didn’t want to because I’m on my period (which takes up half the month - another story for another day) and he fell asleep and an hour later was up and masturbating in the bathroom. It lasted like 5 seconds so he must have been desperate.

I just don’t know what to do, I love my husband but I don’t really like sex that much. I don’t want him to get bored and find someone else to do it with so I’m pretty stuck! Does anyone else feel the same?

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Sorry, but why can’t he masturbate?

Agree with Brittany. Why can’t he ?

He can I just hate the thought of it

It means he’s looking at images and videos of other girls I guess, maybe that’s why I’m uncomfortable with it

Can you send him your kinky pics and videos so at least when he does masturbate he has videos of you to do it to? Would that make you feel better. My hubby has a hidden folder of all my stuff that I’ve sent, and stuff he’s recorded of me in the act.

We have all of those things, but we’re just like really close best friends and I could take or leave the physical side of the relationship

Maybe it’s because he treats every sex session like a porno. I have to squirt otherwise he struggles to cum. I miss when we were younger and me just rubbing him through his trousers made him cum. I miss when missionary made him cum, now he needs much more visual stuff for it to happen and it just takes longer and more work

I would communicate that to him. Maybe there are ways you could compromise so he gets what he needs and you don’t feel like it’s a task

I think it's selfish to not like him masturbating. It gives you a break since you didn't want to do it and it's better than him cheating. There is nothing wrong with someone masturbating when they are not getting sex. I've had relationships with people that doesn't want it every time I wanted it and I masturbated. Masturbation is only bad if you want it but he'd rather go please himself because he doesn't want to take the time to please you
Then I'd be pissed.

If he needs more intense visuals, could you watch porn together? Maybe it would make things feel spicier for the both of you. If you can afford it, there are therapists that specialize in sex issues.

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