If your child’s baby father’s sister died, would sending a red heart with a condolence message inappropriate when your man tells you not to?

My man thinks I have feelings for my baby father because I sent a red heart with condolences. When my dad passed away, I’ve received messages with many hearts from people. I wasn’t trying to be flirtatious or give off any kind of vibe like that. It’s just a condolence message. He’s so upset about it making it a big deal. I don’t care for my baby father. But my man keeps accusing me that I do. Annoying af.

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Sounds like your man is either wildly insecure, or has 0 empathy. Or both.

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He’s insecure. It was nice of you to reach out and offer support.

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He just sounds insecure. Your baby father's sister is your child's aunty. I think you were very well within your rights to send condolences to your child's father regarding your child's aunty.

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I think it’s only respectful to show your condolences after all that was your child’s aunt . Your man can let his insecurity go.

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Hey, guess what dude? (Him not you)
most people “care” about the person they birth children with. That doesn’t mean you’re about to leave someone, cheat, do.. anything, with said person. It means you have basic empathy for a person whom you previously were close to. And for him to question and accuse that as immediate issue or concern is well sad and telling on his part as a partner

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