What will you tell your boys about dresses?

Do you tell your boys that dresses are just for girls?

I’m fairly left wing but I wouldn’t want my boys wearing dresses because of the social stigma. Personally I don’t give a crap what they wear or who they love, so long as they are happy, but trans people have (when I last looked) the highest suicide rates, they are the most likely victims of hate crimes so it’s not a path I would encourage them on though I’ll fully support them if that’s where they do go…

So do you tell your boys only girls wear dresses? I don’t want my boys wearing dresses, but I also don’t want them to be closed hearted or cruel if they meet a boy in a dress. I’m just wondering if there are some standard kind mum lines on this?

I’m also teaching sex not gender, so boys have penises save girls have vulvas (often mistaken as vaginas). I think gender is very outdated.

I’d like a supportive open discussion on this please, just love no hate x

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I have two boys, haven’t bought them everyday dresses to wear - and I wouldn’t unless they asked specifically for one. They have asked for Elsa (frozen) dresses for fancy dress and they have those, albeit they seem to have gone past this phase now.
My two love sparkly cloths though so do have lots to ‘girls’ jumpers and leggings with glitter and sequins on 💁

i believe if that's a path they might go down, they will find it no matter what. the only power we have is how safe we make them feel about sharing that journey with us. studies consistently show that all kids need is one person who is their safe space, who believes in them and supports them, to get through, and the bad outcome rates (suicide, dropping out of school, etc) all suddenly go way down. you can't change society but you can make sure they never question from day one that you're their safe space.

even if they never question their gender, they will also look to you to model how they should treat trans folk. while you may be trying to protect them, i think we risk accidentally teaching them to continue social stigmas and be part of the problem.

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