Won't stop crying or sleep

My baby is 10 weeks old today and he screams for hours. Like he's been awake since 11am and it's 6.20pm now. He feeds like a gannet and it's the only time I can get him to stop crying. My latch is good and no breastfeeding issues but he's on the breast so much that my nipples are red raw and I dread it every time. If I pick him up or try to soothe him he cries more so I have no choice but to leave him. I'm on my own so if I don't I can't eat. I just want him to settle but I'm making everything worse and am terrible at this cos all he does is cry. Nothing seems to work and he's cried himself hoarse which is just horrible to hear but I just don't know what to do

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I totally understand you! My baby was the same this morning...I then give up and lay on the bed with him on my nipple... He calmed down just after he emptied his bowel.. a big poo...

Hi, my baby is 11 weeks old & he does have his fussy days and I feel horrible when he does. Unfortunately I’ve no advice to offer but I just wanted to let you know you’re doing an amazing job & you aren’t terrible at it. Leaving him etc while you eat is completely reasonable, you can’t look after him if you’re not your best self. I get help from my partner but during the week when he’s away working I do it myself and I count down the minutes until he’s home some days, so I can’t imagine how much harder it is doing it alone. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but it will get so much easier. You’re winging it! Pls send me a message if you need someone to talk/vent to xx

Is there any chance that he could have an allergy? My first born was like this and she got diagnosed with a cows milk protein allergy and she changed literally overnight

Mine was the same for few weeks and i couldn’t put her down at all ,as all she was doing was screaming ,it helped to wear her in a baby carrier and i was hands free and she was happy in there …i was able to cook ,clean and look after my toddler ,the baby carrier saved us

My little boy was the same, he's formula fed and screamed after every bottle for hours! Latch was fine and the only thing that calmed him was giving more formula. Turns out he has silent reflux, hes now on omeprazole and hes like a different baby! Is there a chance yours might have this? They don't have to be spewing for them to have it. Hope your little one settles for you soon 🤞🏻

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Did she do it on purpose?

My dad and brother when they were young, had an episode of manic behaviour due to high stress. The other day I was talking with my cousin and she asked how my little boy is. I told her he is a bit wild and having lots of energy compared to his sister. Then she said something like “ oh you know in every family we have dregs/ scum , maybe he is like your crazy dad and brother” and made it as a joke
Also her brother sufferers from depression and she can’t get pregnant.

It’s making me so angry

So I’m English partner is polish - we picked a name for our 2 year old that is English written and said English and birth certificate it’s England

His side of family keep saying it in polish and I have asked multiple times for them to say it and spell it the English way

Other day was it’s birthday - they kept doing it all the presents was all to do with learning polish when I sent them a birthday list etc it’s just making me so angry

They have even said to my partner ‘we will make him polish’

When they are around me they speak polish all day (even at my son birthday party) I have said multiple times I don’t like it as I don’t know what’s going on or what they are saying

We have a day out with them Saturday and I’m dreading it

My partner completely understands where I’m coming from worst thing is even the kids speak to in polish when I’m trying to interact and speak to them being nice so I just say quite. They can all speak read and understand English

payment for nursery’s

Hi everyone, I’m in desperate need of some local advice/help and feeling so stressed.
I’m a single mum and I’ve just been offered a full-time warehouse job starting this Monday. My 2-year-old son was literally just accepted into my dream childcare place full-time starting Monday so I can take the job.
The problem is the nursery has just sent an upfront invoice for £164 due tomorrow before he can start. I’ve been on unpaid zero-hour sick leave for the last 4 weeks at my previous job so I have £0 in my bank account. To make things worse, Universal Credit has messed up my payment today, leaving me with nothing.
I’m terrified I’m going to lose this childcare place and have to turn down my new job on Monday over £164.
Does anyone know of any local Shirebrook charities, emergency grants, or fast-track crisis schemes that can help a working mum cover an upfront childcare invoice in 24 hours? Or has anyone been through this with Universal Credit and managed to get an emergency advance or Flexible Support Fund payment sorted over a Friday?
Any advice or lifelines would mean the world to me and my little boy right now. Thank you so much x"

Is this ok lunch for a 2yo?

He snacks a lot throughout the whole day on fruits/yoghurt, but his biggest meal tends to be at lunch time and he doesn't often eat much at tea time. Am I feeding him too much at lunch or letting him snack too much?

Disclaimer; he doesn't always eat everything but I like him to have a variety of options on his plate aswell

Intimacy

Hey mamas I have a question and a little vent I need advice on.. my husband has constantly made me feel it's an obligation to give him anal and nothing else. I've done everything he's asked for 9yrs almost. And now I am tired of it. Anal does not suit me and it doesn't please me. My husband this morning since I refuse to give him what he wants told me "you'll regret it when I find someone else who will do it" 😭 like come on I never get to enjoy sex but he does. And when I refuse him he gets like that. I've allowed it for 9yrs since our son has been born. No vaginal just anal and my body is hurting. My ovaries hurt, and sad part is he kept saying we could have a 2nd baby and only ever wants anal 😭 I'm now scared from all the anal he's put me through that I might not be able to have any more babies 😭😭 does anyone know what I can do. I really don't have anywhere to go and no vehicle. I'm sad and feeling betrayed. We used to have actual sex before our son and since he's been born all my husband ever wants is anal.

What happens when baby drops percentiles?

My 10 week old just had a weigh in and dropped from 25th to 9th. This is the second time she's dropped although her weight itself has increased by small amounts. HV says not yet concerned but if next weigh in is another drop we'll need to see the feeding team. I've already seen the feeding team when I tried to BF as baby didn't gain weight and they were unhelpful. I gave up and switched to formula and it helped her gain some weight but my baby just doesn't like to eat. Otherwise she is alert and doesn't seem distressed. She's seeing an osteopath for reflux and that doesn't seem to bother her as much anymore. She's been assessed for tongue ties and oral dysfunction and all normal, she's just lazy.

So far advice is just to feed her more but she doesn't want to. I've tried offering a top up after an hour and she's not interested. If we force her to finish her bottle she gets angry and just spits up. I don't really see what the feeding team could do and would rather just bypass and go to the next step if anyone knows what that is.