i'm a young mum and it annoys me when older mums...
when they think its so easy to look after a baby and yet their situation is so much worse than yours 'financially, emotionally and physically', i'm a young mum (early 20's) but my baby was planned we were in a good place financially and i knew i would have full support from my partner whether its with housework or the baby whilst hes also working and i am a sahm. but a older family member is having a baby soon and when i explained that yes it would be hard and try to give advice and tell her she needs a village as her partner is not the helpful kind and is unemployed, she acts so ignorant i honestly do not wish her any harm and have never but i thought the advice would be appreciated coming from someone who has gone through pregnancy and postpartum however she acts completely unfazed, they have no money and live by borrowing money that they never return. I have never been rude nor arogant but simply gave advice and warnings and she just acted like i was the problem and had no idea and a sh*t mum. and that she would be the perfect mum.
JUST BECAUSE SHES OLDER DOESNT MAKE HER WISER!
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Some people don't want to get advice, especially when it can be interpreted as a personal attack (not saying you intended it that way 😊). I know for me at least, when I was about to pop I did not want to hear other people's opinions even when I knew, rationally, that they were perfectly valid.
It's tale as old as time that older people think they've been there, done that, which I think is absolute rubbish since we don't all live the same experience. I'd take the advice of a kid who's been through hell, than a sheltered adult. You're 100% right that older doesn't mean wiser so ignore her, you're a great mother 💕
It sounds like you hit a spot with her, made her aware of quite a few things that are not going right in her/ their life and that might have made her feel defensive and acting the way she did. She was made aware that she doesn't know as much as she might should by now, that her situation with her partner is not right, their financial situation is crap, no village and so on... and all that from a younger mother who has her life and things sorted .... It must have felt like a slap in the face for her - which is not your fault at all but hers because she didn't take responsibility in life where and when it was necessary... 🤷🏼♀️
So, bad luck for her. Good luck on you for sorting out your life properly, thinking of things in advance and maybe having chosen a responsible person as a partner and father for your baby.
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