3 month baby

My heart is broken, i got back to work wednesday thru sunday 6 pm to 6 am cause i need the money not cause i wanted and i think my baby is missing me
I left her at home with my mom
And when i get there at 6 am and my baby sees me she smile a lot, but she doesnt want to sleep in her bassinet, she start crying when i stop holding her for a bit, shes barely eating too, she just want to be with me and the only way she falls asleep is in my chest
I feel so guilty like a bad mom or sum
I think im not doing the right thing 💔

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i felt so guilty leaving my first baby at 6 weeks I know the feeling and until this day, I still have a deep regret for leaving her but only we know what’s best

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Look I’m going to say this with love! completely understand how you feel. ❤️ I haven’t gone back to work yet, but even just thinking about spending less time with my son breaks my heart. The fact that your baby lights up when she sees you doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. it means you’re her safe place. She loves you and misses you because you’re important to her. You’re working because you’re taking care of your family, and that is one of the most loving things a mom can do. Be gentle with yourself. You’re not a bad mom at all. you sound like a mom who loves her baby very, very much.

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This is hard!! Luckily my baby is coming with me to work when I go back at 6 weeks so I’ll be able to check on him whenever!

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