What should I do

And yes I’ve fucking communicated to them all MANY times hence why the fuck I am OVER IT. Fuck fuckity fuck

time for chores for everyone

assign chores , no fun until they’re done , consequences for not abiding , HOTEL W A SPA OR AIRBNB FOR A WEEKEND FRIDAY-MONDAYYYY 😛

I'm literally having the same issue!!! My son is 9 and I don't include him when I say I'm tired of cleaning up after everyone. The people I'm cleaning up after are grown adults who should know better but NOPE. I'm so over it!!!!! 🤬

I can’t completely relate as I only have one kid 10 months old. I have on occasion refused to pick up my husbands socks off the bedroom floor till he had none for work (this was before I was home full time but still stands) if you can’t get some away time. Night alone in a hotel or etc. if the kids refuse to do chores let their shit pile up till they have nothing left and they will learn not only to help but to appreciate it. Take away all the chargers and hide them till they act right. If those things would just stress you out more it’s time to sit them down and lay down the law. Tell that moody teenager you’re just as moody right now and they don’t wanna see what happens when momma doesn’t get one full hour of her feet up. Hope this helps. Wish you the best of luck momma. Some periods are so much worse than others and you need a break from it all.

I just want to cry and sleep and stay away from everyone because if I don’t I’m gonna end up absolutely screaming and having a mental breakdown.

I think it's pretty normal for a teen to need repeated reminding to pick up after themselves but a grown man should know better and set a better example. It's no surprise that someone who's grown up seeing you pick up constantly after dad will think "well she cleans up after him so why not me, it's her job to pick up after us". So I'd start with focusing on him to set an example. Ask him if he wants her to grow up and spend her life picking up after a partner. It's not OK.

In terms of generally feeling overwhelmed, do you ever do anything for yourself so you feel like you're getting a real break? Do you have any hobbies, friends you can meet outside the house for dinner/drinks etc? I go to aerial yoga or paddleboarding every Saturday and it feels like going on a mini holiday because I'm out of the house doing something I enjoy just for me.

Why don’t you organise yourself a day out and leave the kids with you’re husband

I am my mil spoiled child. She complains about me shredding a lot of hair and she shows me how much when she vacuums. We invite her to meals out in restaurants, vacations, I even cook for her sometimes but she refuse to accept anything from me. I never told her to do any of the vacuuming and all the chores she does. You make me wonder if she complains to others about us. I believe like you, she should do stuff for herself to relax and enjoy life. Not necessarily completely giving up her family but do things that she would enjoy. I have been stressing out with everything for months. The last two weekends were very nice. Today I splurged on buying pokemon cards for myself. Don’t buy pokemon cards haha. I just like unwrapping the wrappers. I get to be a kid again lol. I got a full body massage on Friday night. I read. I take walks and talk on the phone. Only you know what you enjoy doing. Don’t become a slave to your family. Do things for yourself too

Im a person that needs space so I have been known to just pack my shit and treat myself to a hotel stay. Told the household to fend for itself and good luck. Doesn't need to be expensive - wetherspoons have pretty decent hotels for £50 - 60 a night. I take a book, order a take away, paint my nails, have a bath without someone nagging me. Bottle of wine. Living that best life ✌️

Also, stop tidying their shit - get a bag for each personal, shove all their stuff in there and dump it in their rooms. They can sort it. Or be really petty and chuck it outside, if they dont want it to get wet, they best go get it 😅