Am I wrong for wanting this 1 day still even now and should I let it go and get over it?
My youngest is 17 weeks and was prem and then and I gave birth via emergency c section alone. Dispite the in laws sitting with the other children and travelling a distance to be with them all weekend he chose to have fish n chips with them and relax a few hours before coming to see me and baby, tea breaks n fag breaks too no rushing. I was seperated from baby so my friend went on as birthing partner after to be with baby until I was well enough as I aspirated and nearly died and hemorrhaged which doctors called to tell him. He then briefly visited once and I was in for 3 days n he had a whole 2 sitters n parents who do everything. I got out of hospital very unwell, sore n struggling more than ever before and i asked for one day of being in the bedroom with baby for one day uninterrupted unless he wanted to make me a cuppa and a sandwich but for him to watch the kids n do housework n keep on top of things for one day so I could put the tele on, pig put on snacks n cuddle baby for a day. He refused its been 4 months n any time I ask for this one day I cant have it. Then a family event come up and its a drive of a few hours so I asked he takes the others as his family take over n would help anyway n he wouldnt do anything and I take this day with the baby. He freaked out..how will that look to them.. I cant cope with all the other kids on my own.. I want u there. May I add my bleeding was irregular so this day I just came on so heavily I was wearing 4 pads n soaking through by each hour. He also missed mothers day and my birthday this year and keeps starting arguments over petty things. I feel like booking me and baby in at a hotel just to have that time for like 24 hours. He had no issues last minute mid crazy busy time dinner, baths, medicines n housework n cleaning n laundry time 3 days in a row saying his popping out for a motorbike ride 3:30pm until 9/10pm then come back n complained i didnt out effort into dinner. Is it just expected that the woman cant have time? I also booked a pedicure (first one in 2 years) home visit one and asked him to be out n take the toddler he out the toddler to bed screaming 5 mins after the lady arrived n then went the opposite end n took a nap in the bedroom (one level home) he just ignored her so I couldnt get 1 hour either. He thinks theres nothing wrong with what I done because its life that I dont get pamper time as apparently he doesnt (does) 2 hour showers n 1 hour poops a day like give me strength.
Am I wrong for still craving that one day of peace and rest just one day? Is it too late and should I let it all go n get over it now?
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I'm so disgusted by everything I just read. The AUDACITY!!!!
For me this would be grounds for divorce.
Men like this do not deserve any woman
I actually am getting so down about it n I put on like 2 stone since baby too but I have been pretty unwell n slow recovery n its the longest recovery I had n my scar still very sore n I keep getting unwell so I aint been as physical plus got a child in wheelchair n appointments n physio n medical things everyday so its full on. I even asked him to have baby n toddler so i can do an at home workout video in next room but I couldnt get the peace n he let them come in n kept coming in for stupid excuses like shall I give them this or have u seen this that n the other or just making me feel uncomfortable in general
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