Baby constantly feeding

My baby is just under 3 weeks old and it feels like he’s constantly wanting to be fed. He’ll do his hunger cues (sticking tongue out, hands to face, sucking motion with his mouth) almost immediately after feeding - like within 10 mins. He can feed for 40mins - 1hr30 at a time like constantly sucking, where he might settle for an hour, but the shorter 15-20min feeds where he takes himself off the boob or falls asleep, he will start his hunger cues/start screaming within 10 mins.

He’s doing lots of wees and poos- about 6 -8 dirty nappies a day and even more heavy wees so I don’t think he’s actually hungry?

I’m so overwhelmed as to what to do because I just can’t put him down and my nipples are so sore.

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He's cluster feeding. Really normal. There's a growth spurt around 3 weeks so he's putting in his order for more milk as he's growing.

It's really tough but does pass. There's another growth spurt at 6 and 8 weeks too.

It's also really normal for babies to just want to suck for comfort which is fine. It helps regulate their breathing, temperature, and heart rate etc.

I know it's really tiring while you're in it but it does end quicker than it feels ❤️❤️ you're doing great xxx

I have been in the exact same boat as you, and I know this may not help but I just wanted to say you are not alone!

My little girl was displaying the same cues at the same times as you mentioned but it didn’t last forever, she’s settled back down now.

You are doing amazing! 💕

Mine is 1 month old today and it feels like during the day if she’s awake she’s feeding and has been the same since she was born and 9/10 times she will fall asleep feeding, come off and then I’ll go to burp her and she we will start sucking on her arm again. She is also having lots of wet and dirty nappies and is over her birth weight so I think she is just enjoying the comfort. It is hard and I also have a nearly 4 year old so it’s difficult feeling like you’re stuck there when she needs my attention too. I’ve been told it’s normal and my nipples stop and start hurting depending how much she feeds but I use a cream/ shields when this happens :)

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