Naps

Can I ask, whenever my mum texts in the morning to ask how our night was (due to baby not sleeping longer than 1/2 hours before crying, she’s 8 months)
I tell her it was rubbish again blah blah
My mum seems to think my problem is having a nap schedule - by that all I do is follow her cues and by the 3/4hour wake window mark she’s ratty and wants a nap so I let her??? Isn’t that the normal thing to do??
She seems to be so confused by this and says she’s never heard anything like it 😂 she’s mid 40’s and had her last baby 12 years ago so I guess things change but I’m just checking this is normal following wake windows and napping 😂

Baby has 3 naps a day purely bcos we are up at 3/4 am most mornings as she won’t sleep. On good nights which are rare she will get up 6ish after I mange to settle her in my bed then she will have only 2 naps with a bed time between 6-7

Don’t even know if this makes sense but need to just get it off my chest

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Nappies and wipes

Recommended brands of nappies and wipes to use ? And what creams I will need I only have sudocreme

3/4 months changes

Hi writing this out of exhaustion. My baby’s long stretches have suddenly disappeared and baby waking more frequently at night and won’t settle unless on me belly to belly? It’s not a feeding thing as baby is waking shortly after his night feed unsettled. Baby also not gassy or got wind.

Scared to get help and be seen as not coping

I'm 6 weeks PP with baby no2. I also have a 3 year old.

I'm really struggling but I don't want to tell my health visitor because I know as soon as I start speaking I will burst into tears and I can't do that, it's so embarrassing and I hate being seen as not coping.

She's due to visit on Wednesday to weigh baby and do a couple tests. I also have a GP appt soon for my 6 week check. I know I should probably mention my mental health to one of them but I just can't.

I keep expecting it to get better, and some days it feels easier, but then some days are just so dark and I can get a break from my mind or snap out of it.

I'm starting to feel distant from both my kids. My son (3yo) is in a VERY argumentative phase, and although I'm not a shouty parent, I have started getting short with him and unable to hide my annoyance. I can't look at him sometimes and just cannot wait for him to go to bed. I always feel guilty.

With my baby I just can't bare her being awake because the pressure of keeping her from crying makes me feel so unbelievably on edge. It's like I always have a lump in my throat, or like I always can't quite take a deep enough breath. When she goes to sleep I feel relieved. But the bigger she gets the less she sleeps, and the harder it is to get her to nap. She was awake from 6pm - 11:30pm tonight and nothing I was doing was working. My husband was also trying but I cannot bare to hear her crying when what he's doing isn't working. I'd rather be the one trying. I know it's silly.

But at 10:45pm I had to message him to come upstairs and get her and take her away because I was starting to get angry and so frustrated and telling her to shut up. She was clean, fed, burped, and just kept crying. If she woke my 3yo up it would be hell. I just can't take it. I feel so guilty for thinking like this.

I love my babies, I don't want to be a sad, angry mum but I just want to run away. I don't want to be with them.

Baby is asleep now buy I know she'll wake soon for a feed so I can't sleep. I feel like I'm drowning.

question and advice?

recently i’ve been really missing everything especially my old body. i love my son so so much and happy he’s here and that my body made such a beautiful boy but i miss my old body. i’ve also started getting really stressed too much especially when he cries after he’s been fed changed and burped. try get him to sleep and screams more leaving me not knowing what to do. i put him down in a safe space and have time to think but recently i’ve been wanting to just cry and cry. i feel so alone and idk what it could be. i just want to cry all the time and i can’t then it all hits me when my baby’s asleep and my boyfriends asleep too. is anyone else experiencing this? could it be early signs of post partumn depression? i don’t know as im a first time teen mum. i just don’t know what’s wrong with me.

Breastfed babies who sleep through the night… do you wake up to pump?

My EBF 3 month old has been sleeping through the night from 7 pm - 5:30 am. I’m worried about my supply dropping… should I be waking up to pump at night, or just feeding more often throughout the day to keep my production up?

Is you baby talking yet?

By cooing I mean ah, eh, squeals etc no actual word sounds like ma/ da/ ga etc