Missed Miscarriage at 9 weeks and D&C operation

Hi I’m so sorry this has happened to you my biggest condolences.

I had a miscarriage and a year after a missed miscarriage, went for a private ultrasound due to my miscarriage a year before and just wanted to know baby was okay and was told they couldn’t find a heartbeat at 8 weeks. I started bleeding naturally a couple days later.

8 months after my missed miscarriage I had twin babies so I like to think that what was taken away was brought back to me, although it broke my heart my little sweethearts are now 5 months old and I know this is what was meant to be for me!

This is a really hard time for you so take time to grieve with your family and again I am so sorry this has happened to you 🩷

I had 3 pregnancy losses and a failed IVF transfer before meeting my rainbow. The previous ones never made it to past 8 weeks and I also did d&c at my 3rd loss. For some reason I could get pregnant (without IVF) but not able to keep those pregnancies. I learnt that this happened could be because of a genetic error, a structural problem in the uterus, an autoimmune response after the previous pregnancy, a latent infection or disrupted microflora in the uterus that prevents the embryo from developing further. There are tools to overcome these medical problems but it took me years to find out as I had 3 of the problems above. Always remember the miscarriage is not your fault or something you did. Sometimes it’s just bad luck and all I could do was keep trying and keep investigating the cause and fix them.

After the D&C I experienced cramping for months and that was traumatic. It’s important to let yourself and your body to rest/recover after a miscarriage and not rush to try again.

In June 2022 I found out at our 12 week scan that baby had no heart beat. I had a D&C 3 weeks later. Unfortunately, it was unsuccessful and I still had retained tissue so I had to have another D&C 4 weeks later.

I was absolutely beside myself with worry about falling pregnant again and what if the D&Cs had caused any damage etc etc. It was an awful awful time.

But here’s the positive part… I fell pregnant again on our first try in October 2022 and I’ve now got an almost 3 year old girl and a 5 month old boy 🩷💙

Thought I’d share because I was exactly the same as you around the time of the D&Cs - I was absolutely desperate to read positive stories of people going on to have successful pregnancies afterwards x