Child support (please no judging)
I’m currently pregnant with my first baby off of a “one night stand” with someone I had met years ago yet only recently did we reconnect and sleep together for the first time.
After that ONE night, we continued to speak and see eachother at the gym and such but a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant.
After telling him, he immediately asked me to get rid of it and said he didn’t want to be involved.
Personally (no shame to others at all), I don’t agree with abortions and could never put myself through one. so I said I’m keeping it.
I did make it very clear to him that my decision wasn’t changing and I in no way am expecting him to step up and be a father. I even said he doesn’t need to be involved AT ALL. I am not one to trap someone in a situation they don’t want to be in, and I’m not one to blame him for this either or hold him accountable.
This is why I’m struggling, I have multiple people telling me I should claim child support off of him regardless. Personally, I don’t want to as he did ask me to get rid of it and I was the one who said no. yes, it’s both of us that created this situation.. but I’m the reason the situation still exists. which is why I don’t think it’s fair for me to make him pay.
We haven’t spoken ONCE since the week I found out (3-4 months ago)
What would you do???
Husbands Female Best Friend Wants to Move in...
I really, really, need advice.
My husband (21) has a best friend (20) who he's known since middle school. They're close and have been communicating on and off with each other for years. I've hung out with them as well and I do like her! She lives with her parents, and although they aren't wealthy, they are well off. They are forcing her to go to college (which she dislikes) but other than that I have no idea why she would want to move out. Today she asked my husband if she could move in with us. The problem is that we live in a one bedroom apartment. She said she'd take the couch in the living room. We also have a five month old baby.
I don't know what to feel. I don't think we have enough space as it is with us and the baby in one room. Our marriage has also been struggling since I'm dealing with PPD and we barely have sex as it is. Having her live with us would erase that entirely. Also, I just don't know if I'd be comfortable having someone outside of the family living with us in general. I feel like my space would be introuded on, even if I do like her. I feel like I'd have to put on a performance in my own home, if that makes sense? For context, I'm also neurodivergent and mask in public. Even though she's a friend of his, I still don't know her well enough to take this mask off.
I trust my husband, but I also just feel like having another woman in our space might be weird tbh. I don't think he'd cheat, but idk...
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