Doing it Without a Village
I just wondered if many other people were doing parenthood without a village to help? We don’t get any help from our parents and although it was obviously our choice to have a child sometimes it just hurts a bit that we get no support. My little one ended up in A&E this week due to getting a viral wheeze which meant she couldn’t breathe properly and she hasn’t seen my mum in a few months but even though I invited my mum over to see her she still couldn’t be bothered to make the effort. She lives 20 mins down Road. I just don’t understand how she cannot be interested? She’s her only grandchild also.
Just feels hard balancing it with work and nursery when she’s always off poorly especially. She started nursery last November but still seems to be getting poorly all the time 🥴
Just wish we had someone to fall back on instead of me and my partner trying to figure out who’s less likely to get fired for having another day off work 🥴 I really envy people with close parents!
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I have close parents but they are both elderly and unable to help with childcare and all my husbands family are in Ireland. We're alone to deal with everything as well! It's really hard work and means we get no time for eachother too.
We're due another baby in 2 weeks and I'm praying my csection is on a day my son is in nursery, else we're screwed and I'll have to go to hospital without my husband.
People with help dont understand how hard it is when you don't have any at all x
We're in the same boat. Both my parents passed away before LO was born, and both of my partner's parents are elderly and live in other parts of the country. It is really tough and we occasionally take a day of annual leave while little one is in nursery just to go out for a meal or something together and to get some life admin done! X
No help here either unless I pay for extra nursery days. It’s hard. I get no time to myself.
So about once a month I get a day off work where my boy is in nursery and I’m not working but that is the busiest day ever because that’s catch up day. Got to get everything squeezed in that I can’t do when I’ve got the boy. Practical stuff. Never something fun.
Me and my husband never get the chance to do nice things alone. We’ve got all these nice vouchers in a drawer for fancy dinning experiences and can’t use them because there is no one to take the boy at night time.
This is my reality and I get so jealous of people who have someone who can help them.
No village here, either! Not in contact with my parents, my partners ones do come to visit every few months but it isn't a help. I'm a sahm and can't drive so really do feel it sometimes. Must be tough for you having your mum living that close and still not doing anything though, I'm not surprised it's hurtful sometimes.
We do it almost entirely alone, one set of grandparents is a little over an hour away, the other 3+ hours. Both of our mums have recently had breast cancer and are at different stages of treatment.
I also was in A&E last week with my youngest, and my eldest was in bed so husband had to stay home with him.
It’s definitely a struggle at times! We definitely could do with more help, rather than just about muddling through in the trickier patches. Let alone having the luxury of date nights or solo trips away etc.!!
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