Would you take offence?

Earlier picking up my youngest from nursery, we were chatting to his key worker and said it’s our eldest’s birthday today. She said oh happy birthday to him (his was on my husband’s shoulders) and then said oh he probably doesn’t even realise it’s his birthday. I quickly said of course he understands and then we all walked off.

It’s not sat right with me as she was his old key worker at nursery and knows him. She was the one who initially thought he was autistic. For her to say he doesn’t understand really shocked me as I know he does understand.

Do you think I’m overthinking it?

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Some people like to think they know your kid better than you do because they got some kind of certification; But no teacher no doctor no therapist knows your kid better than you do ; they have to talk to you to get history before they can start their job …. No you’re not overthinking it ( in my opinion at least) .

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No you’re not, that would have pissed me off so much.

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First off Happiest of Birthdays to your son. I hope he has a wonderful day today💙

Second, you handled that very well because my momma bear instincts would have gone full rage.

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How old is ur child

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