Why do grandparents/aunts do this?

While talking to my dad on the phone, my son interrupted asking about his sensory sandbox. I told him he could only play with it outside.
This got my dad on the topic of sandboxes. He asked if we had one and I said no, our son has his sensory box and that's more than enough.
He asked if it was a conscious choice not to have one.
I told him that we don't have one because our dog would spend most of the time in it, our son has his sensory bin and he plays in the sand enough at school. Plus we don't really have a place for it in our backyard.
My sister texted me today saying that she and my aunt went in on a present for my daughter and hopes it arrives by the weekend. I go to get our produce delivery and there is a large box the label says sandbox.
I called my mum and she said they all went in on it and she's bringing the sand to my daughter's birthday.

My husband barely tolerated the sensory bin before we moved to a place with a usable backyard. Now we have something 100x the size of the bin.

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That's really not right that they went and did that after you said that didn't want one basically. I feel like you made yourself quite clear and they just went against what you said. I'm sorry that now you have a large sandbox that you do not want.

Tell them you don't want or need it and you will be returning it and they can get their money back.

You don't have it for a reason. My husband and I made it very clear to my mom that any toys she buys stay at her house ESPECIALLY toys with a lot of pieces. There were a few times we had to remind her of this rule and it takes reinforcement. Keep boundaries clear

have them call that company and request a full refund that it’s damaged or something so that they don’t throw a big fit in taking it back. You have to relay your boundaries that you love them and you understand where they coming from being all excited as grandparents but they could bring it to their home if they really insist on giving this to them, but not at your home and you’ve already explained that and you do appreciate the thought, but they need to respect yours

I totally agree!

That’s so annoying. I’d drop it off at their house and tell them if they want my kids to have it so bad they can put it in THEIR backyard so they can play in it THERE. But I’m kind of difficult and no one wants to babysit my kid when I need a break because of my strict rules and boundaries so maybe don’t listen to me. But I definitely relate to your situation.

My husband came home and immediately said "marketplace"

in our community

Am I being unreasonable?

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He's started going to the gym with our neighbour who annoyingly wants to go at 5:30pm every day (No kids)
Every day it turns into an argument of why he can't just go at 6pm. There is no reason to go during the only bit of time you get to spend with your daughter. He thinks I'm being controlling. I reply the gym is more important than spending time with your daughter. It's starting to drive me insane. Am I being unreasonable??

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I constantly see moms posting about how their baby is screen free, how they leave their baby to play and get on with stuff and it’s draining to see.

my daughter is 9 months in a few days and does not use screens unless absolutely necessary to keep her distracted whilst I have to do something or we are travelling far and she is bored of all her toys and snacks.

I have a fomo baby who is VERY active. Attention span in toys is 2 seconds, gets bored very easy, is very clingy. I constantly rotate toys, get new toys, leave her to play, give her snacks but sometimes it’s not possible to do things with her after she’s bored of all her toys and snacks. I also give her things that are not toys like plastic cutlery and Containers etc but still it lasts 5 mins.

So I have to give a little bit of screen to just quickly get some stuff done. And I do feel that there’s some type of shaming online and in real life. Even from influencers who constantly say ‘this is my baby playing without screens whilst I do things’. But it’s easier when ur baby isn’t a fomo baby. I feel like parents or moms with very fomo active babies are very misunderstood.

I do want to say my daughter has about 10 mins of screen time in a whole week if that. But also does mean a lot of household work is not done or is done very slowly :/

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I feel like a bad mum.
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