Husband saw my vibrator

Maybe it’s time to be honest w/him about what’s really going on? Dry spells aren’t uncommon in relationships, at least not where kids are involved, children are so incredibly demanding & it’s draining & so easy to get touched out, especially if you’re partner is letting the bulk of it fall to you, there’s only so much a person can handle, that vibrator makes no demands of you, it’s entire purpose is to bring pleasure & is available anytime you need it. The reason why my hubs has never been turned down is nearly 14yrs is bc he makes it his life’s goal to take the weight off my shoulders, some men talk of being protectors, my hubs truly is one, he protects my emotional & mental wellbeing along w/my physical health, every time I let him know I was getting touched out, he’d take over more parenting in the evenings, if I say I’m tired, he makes sure I get a nap etc then same goes for him, it’s not a balance of tasks, it’s a balance of respect between partners that brings on that desire.

Some guys think the idea of a girl using one is kinda hot…just saying.

A very similar scenario happened to me too!! He had gotten me a vibrator for xmas YEARS ago that just sat in a drawer. Well almost every night towards the end of my pregnancy I would use it to help put me to sleep after the O as I was having anxious insomnia. Well apparently I didn't put it back the way it was one night and he noticed when he went into that drawer the next day. He didn't say anything initially but it did get brought up somehow when we were intimate (we were only being intimate to try and induce labor). He was definitely hurt, felt rejected, and I was mortified and didn't know what to say to diffuse the situation. I was so embarrassed and haven't touched the thing since 🤣 no advice but solidarity!