Slow to warm up toddler helppp 😩

I have a 2.5 year old girl who is.. “spirited”.. to say the least. She socializes very well with children and a few of her most trusted adults (aunt, teacher, grandma.) however, when pretty much anyone else tries to talk to her or literally even look at her she screams her head off. I thought it was stranger danger last year but she never outgrew it. I can’t even check out with a cashier at the grocery store, we have to do self checkout so she doesn’t have a meltdown. She also has this behavior when family visits. It takes her literally days to warm up to someone. She does go to daycare part time and has no issue at all with drop off or pick up. We also recently have made small advances (someone can give her a balloon or sucker at the store and she will say thank you and take it)

The problem is, we have a big event and like 10 of my husbands relatives are coming to stay with us. She has met them all but doesn’t know them well. I am extremely nervous that she is going to lay screaming and kicking in the floor for 3 days. Is there anything I can do to help her through this and make the process easier? We have already warned everyone to not contact her directly but to let her come to them at her own time.

I am sooooo nervous. Every time we visit family she won’t let me put her down and it’s literally starting to give me a shoulder problem. Please tell me someone out there can relate.

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I can soooo relate!!!! I have been feeling so alone in this. Its truly a whole scene if someone gives my 2 yo any type of attention and shes only getting bigger and heavier it definitely starts hurting! I honestly dont know what would work for your baby but the only thing that (barely) helps mine is explaining absolutely everything to her, even in the middle of all the people socializing, i explain theyre just talking about work or theyre just eating some food with us until they go back home. I try my best to reassure her it’s temporary and its just people being friendly to her. Its a hard line to balance on though because of stranger danger of course. I do think they’ll grow out of it as they get more used to it. Or at least I hope lol I never dealt with this with my first so I’m just freeballing. Again though its hard, I hope you find something that works for you guys and you get a break off that shoulder!

Maybe make a photo book with their pictures in and their names and you can go through it a couple of times a day with her, leave it out for her to look at by herself - and keep referring to it as her family book.
We have a general one for friends and family we made and my daughter looks at it all the time and refers back to certain pictures when we mention names etc so it does help especially when you don’t see people very frequently x

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