What would you do?

My father in law has booked a chalet for skiing with the family in January. It’s only for 6 days, take away 2 of those for travelling.
4 days of skiing but we will have a nearly 3yo and a 6 month old, so will be limited depending on family willing to help with childcare.

We missed this last trip due to my toddler being 7 months and he was an extremely tricky baby, my husband was devastated.

I promised we’d do the next one but I really can’t justify it, it’s going to cost 2-3k as my only alternative is to find another chalet to extend our time out there. I can’t justify two full days of travelling with two little ones for such a small amount of time there.

I’ve never been skiing either, his whole family are experienced. We’d be out there with his 3x sisters, only one has kids.

I don’t want my toddler to miss out on these opportunities, I really don’t! But it’s filling me with anxiety already. They want to get it all booked!

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Help at home??

My fellow sahm’s..does your partner contribute to helping with ANY chores/tasks around the home?? Beyond basic cleaning, I take out the garbage, fix all of the small repairs (clogged pipes, changing lightbulbs etc) he doesn’t do so much as just picking up after himself. I will leave house spotless and go to sleep and throughout the night while he’s awake will leave all his drinks, snacks, trash, clothing, work stuff etc out on the floor and tables and it looks like a hurricane ran through the place and I start my day off with a complete mess over and over again. I’m cleaning up the same messes everyday with no help. Im already running around cleaning up the babies and my own messes all day, it takes me a lot more time with these conditions. Is this inconsiderate of him or simply just my job?

Vinted Dilemma

Hi I have a silly question as I’m genuinely unsure of what to do… apologies in advance that this not motherhood related!

I use Vinted a lot! To sell and buy, I received a top today and it has deodorant and armpit stains, to be honest this gross me out and pissed me off a bit because obviously it was not shown in the pictures, it was only £3 so I don’t know if I’d be making a big fuss by either reporting it was not as described as they do say it has to be significantly different which is not it’s just very dirty and cero attempt to clean it clearly or to accept it but leave a bad-ish review? I never leave bad reviews, if anything I make it a point to always leave good reviews because my score means a lot to me so I assume is the same for other people as well… what do you think??

Also, I don’t think I can even re sell the top because we know how difficult those stains are to solve!

Please help me

Me and my bf have a 22 month old, but my bf just doesn’t really ever help around the house or anything.. we are not a priority. He likes to sniff Ketamine and drink, he is also in debt and owes me a fair amount of money.
I am at the point of feeling like i need and want to split up with him, I am not happy. But for some reason i feel so guilty splitting up with him and asking him to move out.
Please can i have advice or something as i just feel completely drained and lost right now.
Do i end the relationship?

Mobile phone

What age have people giving their children phone? I wasn’t allowed one till my older brother got one first. So think I was 13 or something and that was my brother pass down one. Obviously I am aware how times have changed since the 90s and how advance technology/ social media influence children now.

Boyfriend using me for sex and a place to live?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and our daughter is two. We live with my grandparents and they currently are supporting us. My boyfriend hasn’t had a job longer than 2 months before something happens and he gets fired or he quits. He like refuses to look for a job and doesn’t want to help with our child and with me having seizures I can’t really work. I’m just at a loss for what to do we need money but he just want to play video games and stay a child. I mean I babysit on the side for extra cash but he does nothing and he doesn’t even hang out with me at all. The only time he does is when he wants to have sex and then once that’s done he goes straight back to the game. His sleep schedule is even opposite. I just feel like he’s only with me because it’s convenient he’s broke got no job no car no place to live and no family to run to stay so I’m his only option.

You ever wrestled with deciding to throw something out bc of sentimental value, so you just decide to leave it alone until one day you’re just fed up with the clutter and start rage cleaning?

I realize I do this all the time lol