What do you do in these situations?

We had a lovely big trip planned for today to Chessington. The whole family. Grandparents, cousins etc.
My 5 year old has been absolutely awful, not listening last night so I thought I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. But she’s been awake since 5;30 this morning, come into her sisters bedroom who is 2 and jumped on her playfully but hurt her, both myself and her dad asked her to stop but she continued and now my 2 year old is in bits. On top of that she was rude to my husband when he asked her to leave the room, and now I really don’t want to take her to Chessington because why should she?! Her behaviour is awful.
But it means myself my husband and our 2 year old missing out too. And I don’t want to punish our 2 year old for something she hasn’t done. I’ve got no one else to leave our 5 year old with because everyone is going today.
What do you do in these situations? How do you punish one without it being unfair on the other?

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I use Vinted a lot! To sell and buy, I received a top today and it has deodorant and armpit stains, to be honest this gross me out and pissed me off a bit because obviously it was not shown in the pictures, it was only £3 so I don’t know if I’d be making a big fuss by either reporting it was not as described as they do say it has to be significantly different which is not it’s just very dirty and cero attempt to clean it clearly or to accept it but leave a bad-ish review? I never leave bad reviews, if anything I make it a point to always leave good reviews because my score means a lot to me so I assume is the same for other people as well… what do you think??

Also, I don’t think I can even re sell the top because we know how difficult those stains are to solve!

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I am at the point of feeling like i need and want to split up with him, I am not happy. But for some reason i feel so guilty splitting up with him and asking him to move out.
Please can i have advice or something as i just feel completely drained and lost right now.
Do i end the relationship?

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