2 under 2 c section healing limited support

I’m about to have a newborn and a 17 month old. I’m having a repeat c section and my husband works 70 hours a week so I’m a lone alllll the time. We have no family support and can’t afford a nanny or help because we live paycheck to paycheck as it is. My question is, does anyone have any tips on how to handle the toddler and newborn while also healing from c section? Eg how will I load and unload the 17 month old into the car seat and put when I’m not even able to lift over 10 lbs for 6 weeks. I’m really getting stressed about the logistics of everything.

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Hey! Congratulations on baby #2!

I had a c section and also had limited support. I took everything slow. Sometimes you have to carry something or move something out the way and you really have no choice. You will be able to do it, just do it slowly. Thats what I had to do, and it worked out! You will be okay! Do not stress yourself out. For your toddler, maybe get a foldable step stool from dollar tree or Amazon and have him or her step up and down the car with your assistance so you don’t have to lift!

God will give you the strength you need when you need it. Ask for help when help is around and pray and trust in the Lord when no one but Him is around! You got this mom! Praying for a safe delivery and an amazing healing journey!

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