Nearly 6 months and still waking every 1-2 hours overnight. I’M TIRED

We have taken a side off of his cot and attached it to our bed and my baby sleeps there. He still wakes every 1-2 hours for a feed (he sometimes will do a random 2.5 hour stretch if we’re lucky). I have to feed him (EBF) every time he wakes or he kicks off and screams and screams and screams (my parter has tried to settle him but he cries so much he coughs and starts to choke on his saliva 😢). I’ve tried other ways to settle him, occasionally tapping his head will work (for maybe 1 wake).

I’m following wake windows, I keep him stimulated during the day, take him out for walks, swimming, baby classes etc. He sleeps a ‘normal’ amount of time for his naps. We’ve got blackout blinds, make sure the room is a good temperature, stick to the same bedtime routine. I feed him in his cot, he then rolls onto his tummy and goes to sleep.

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong 😩 I feel maybe he’s started to reverse feed? As in he gets most of his calories overnight instead of during the day. I try to offer him the breast as much as possible but he will only take one breast and be done after 5 minutes whereas he can stay on my breast overnight for 15 mins +. I’ve read I need to stop feeds overnight so he’s hungry in the day time but I can’t do that as he screams so badly!

Any advice / tips / reassurance would be great! Thank you x

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Would you be offended by this or am I overly sensitive?

In conversation with my husband talking about our 2nd being our last baby. I said I think this might be it for me as it has really taken its toll on me physically. My husband then commented that maybe it's because this time around I was more unhealthy before conception than I was with my first. My husband is not the father of my first and wasn't around me back then when I was with a previous partner. I am quite conscious that I am the biggest I have ever been and I am struggling. I think this felt like a kick whilst I am down I am only 6 months postpartum.

Why does my baby hate me?

My 7 month old has had a personality change in the past week. He just whinges all day and screams. I feed him, change him, let him nap on me, play, take him for walks and cuddle him. Give him his teething gel and his other medicines he's on. But nothing is ever good enough. He's fine for his Dad. What am I doing wrong? I feel like running away 💔

Help?

My baby’s dad has been adding an extra half scoop to his formula bottles without me knowing, please I am really worried. Will he be ok? I read online it can cause kidney damage he is 1 week old.

Losing supply 😢

Hi ladies, any suggestions would be appreciated.

I've been breastfeeding exclusively but have noticed that my baby is feeding every 1.5 hours (was over 2) and weight is taking a downward trend. I think tiredness is taking its toll.

I had a massive supply at the beginning and have been to breastfeeding support who have confirmed latch is fine but it seems supply is reducing. Now I can't express extra anymore and my stash is running out. I've tried supplementing with formula but she has come out in eczema and stomach upset with multiple brands, so perhaps has CMPA? The doctor won't prescribe DF formula because I include some dairy in my diet and therefore can't be CMPA.

Any tips on how to boost my supply again?

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Raw post

I don't know where to begin but I feel like I'm drowning. Before I say anything else, of course I am safe. My son is 7 months old and he is a very energetic happy boy, but I have never felt the same since before I was pregnant.

I am in that stage of postpartum where I don't know who I am and I don't recognise myself. I have tried therapy and it just wasn't helping me. The endless nights of watching your partner go to bed but knowing that the bottles have to be washed and the laundry needs to be done, so you've got to pick the priority and that's your child's stuff. There are nights that I don't go to bed until 1 a.m. and days without showers. Keep in mind I am a uni student as well.

I'm at this point in motherhood where I feel so trapped. I've been told to go to mothers' groups but just the thought of getting out of the house is so incredibly hard. I've reached out to online mothers' groups and tried to make friends but it hasn't really worked.

I don't know how many other mums feel like this, where they just stare at their baby monitor every night, knowing that it's going to be Groundhog Day the next day. Feeling trapped inside their home with a young one, putting all of your priority into them but knowing that the time limit on their nap is so short that nothing can be done anyway.

It's a bit of a raw and real post but this is what stage of motherhood I am in. I would say I'm not enjoying it and I'm not thriving and I don't have my village. If any other mums feel like this, I would encourage you to comment. I hope I'm not the only one.