Where do I go from here..

So in a nutshell my husband and I got married just under 6months of knowing one another. I’ve been celibate before knowing him and few months into the marriage he has brought up that I wasn’t as intimate as a wife would be and fast forward a year I found out he has a hidden Instagram which he had followed over 200 or more of half naked women and women of a certain demographic so to say but hasn’t messaged any of them. He had this account hidden away from me for almost a year to which I found out by going through his phone at one point. We’ve spoken about it and his explanation was ‘because I wasn’t giving him the sexual intimacy part’ so just went else where to ‘seek’ it. Now we have a three month boy and it’s put me off completely sleeping with him because what hurt was he started this Instagram while I was pregnant. Now I just don’t see him the same anymore, it feels more of so a marriage of convenience and now I don’t know so I stay and try make it work or walk away. Where do I go from here..

in our community

Are playgrounds safe for a toddler?

My husband asked me to avoid our toddler playing outside this summer because he could get hurt.

I thought back to my 90s childhood and getting hurt (knee scrapes etc) was just part of being a kid.

Have we been gaslit into believe that playgrounds are safe for kids because we experienced it?

I’m torn, my son is so energetic and loves nature, outdoors and definitely bugs 🤮I really want him to continue to explore outdoors and freely for developmental purposes.

Neighbour complaining about our BBQ

We had a BBQ the other day and our elderly Neighbour came around the next day asking us to move the BBQ because she could smell it in her house during the night. I’m not quite sure how to address this as I feel like it’s our own garden and we aren’t doing anything nefarious. Where the BBQ is now is against the fence next to her house, and is the ideal placement in our garden, to move it would require a reshuffle of the entire garden, and honestly I don’t know if it would make much difference if the wind was blowing in her direction anyway. The garden is pretty small, and would only gain a 2-4 meters away from the fence if we moved it.

The next weekend we had another BBQ so I went across and warned her that we were cooking outside, and if the smell bugs her she’s welcome to close her windows when we cook (meant as a nice forewarning gesture, but also advising we aren’t moving the BBQ).

What would you do in this situation?

Guys I’m doing something that’s potentially kinda wrong involving a woman in my gym lol, do you think this is likely to play out in my favor?

So I had Aflac for my kids dental but I didn’t realize my husband I guess canceled or didn’t renew our policy, anyways after a few apts I got an invoice about dental bills, turns out I owe my kids dentist 2k. I didnt pay it yet because it’s just not on my short list of things to worry about lol, so fast forward a few weeks and boom I see my kids dentist at the gym, she owns the whole dental place btw it’s like her private practice or whatever, and I say hi and then lately every time I see her we end up chatting, i already told her I recognize her from her work and whatever but eventually after a few months and maybe some flattery and chumminess I think im going to tell her I have this outstanding bill and just see if she waives it 😅 also, not that I really need to add this but I could pay it outright right now, I just really don’t want to detract from my savings, I have a strict savings plan and my husband and I arent like brutally suffering but we’re def NOT well off. Every time I establish some savings it’s like disaster strikes, someone’s car goes out, random medical crap, etc. so I’m always anxious to touch it.

Potty training early using elimination communication

Has anyone started potty training at around 8 months? We’re thinking about starting just to get him used to associating wees and poos with the toilet and will teach him to sign for potty. How did it go for you and how did you know to put them on for wees? Obviously we know he won’t be fully trained until much later

Working parents

How on earth do people actually work and have kids of school age 😥 by the time you have done the morning commute you are starting work late then you have to leave work early to go pick them up!! I actually don't know how people do it? School clubs are also first come first served each term so cannot even guarantee your employer the same hours each term!

1st birthday

I think i may be going overboard a little but I don’t care and i would give her the world if i could, thinking of what i can buy for her 1st birthday literally keeps me awake at night 😂 will list below what i have incase anyone wants ideas or can suggest anything i can add

• Personalised books
• Ball pit
• Tunnel
• Personalised doll
• Play tent
• Bean bag
• Wooden blocks
• Foam blocks
• Doll pram
• Play Kitchen
• Flash cards
• Shape puzzle
• Water toys (no holes)
• Colour sorting cups
• Montessori sensory garden