Neighbour complaining about our BBQ

We had a BBQ the other day and our elderly Neighbour came around the next day asking us to move the BBQ because she could smell it in her house during the night. I’m not quite sure how to address this as I feel like it’s our own garden and we aren’t doing anything nefarious. Where the BBQ is now is against the fence next to her house, and is the ideal placement in our garden, to move it would require a reshuffle of the entire garden, and honestly I don’t know if it would make much difference if the wind was blowing in her direction anyway. The garden is pretty small, and would only gain a 2-4 meters away from the fence if we moved it.

The next weekend we had another BBQ so I went across and warned her that we were cooking outside, and if the smell bugs her she’s welcome to close her windows when we cook (meant as a nice forewarning gesture, but also advising we aren’t moving the BBQ).

What would you do in this situation?

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I need to vent....

My mother never babysits. She's one of those grandparents.

She's watched him for a total of 6 times since he's been born. He's 4 years old now.

Anyway, the last time was last night. She was upset because he didn't listen to her when she asked him to do something.

When we got home, she started complaining to us and saying "I really think you should work on x, y, z with him".

I'm sorry what? You know why he didn't listen to you right? You barely know him and he barely knows you.

I am raaaagingggggggggg. How dare she? How dare anyone? What the fuuuuck

Partner working away

Am I a bitch or is there something about when your partner comes back from working away that drives you nuts? More mess that hes making? Feeling like its less stressful when he is away?

At what age did you start potty training?

My bubs is 9 months but I’ve been thinking what would be the best time. Also if you could’ve done it differently what would you have done?

Park manners

We went to the park today, and for the first hour it was just my 2 year old playing. Right as we were getting ready to leave, some older kids arrived and my child wanted to play with them, so we decided to stay.

The older kids kept running away from him and calling him a monster, which honestly didn’t bother me too much. What did upset me was that the child closest to his age started throwing wood chips at him, spitting at him, and even walked up and hit him.

The parents were sitting on a nearby bench talking and did absolutely nothing. They didn’t correct their child, intervene, or even acknowledge what was happening.

What is your go-to response in situations like this? I found myself getting really upset and wasn’t sure how to handle it.

AITA?

So I’m currently going thru postpartum rage, and it’s been very hard. Everyday is a struggle. I’m mentally drained and physically exhausted. I don’t have a spark in me like I used to and I hate it so much but I’m trying.

My bf wants to have a family day at the park with our kids (1 and 5). It’s very last minute. He told me about it maybe 4 hours ago. Anyway, I get myself and the kids ready (I was taking a nap and he woke me up tb “get up let’s get ready to go. I get about 5-6 hours of sleep every night). I put on a wig, some clothes to cover my legs (I haven’t shaved and my hair isn’t done) and a hat. I do my daughter’s hair and she’s tender-headed so it’s a struggle. I’m also diabetic and switched drs and my new dr didn’t have any appts available until late July so I’ve been without a sensor and a pump for 6 months and it’s VERY INCONVENIENT. So I’m dealing with a lot.

My bf walks up to me, takes my hat off also pulling my wig off, and runs away. I get very irritated. Tell him give me my hat back, which he doesn’t, then I lock myself in our room bc I just need to breathe and take a minute. Hes outside the door saying “if you don’t open this door I’m not buying you any food or anything and you can say goodbye to that nap you wanted.” Our 5 year old tells him to give me my hat back and raises her voice. He tells her no and then pops her for raising her voice.

I know that this could’ve been avoided, but he does things like this all the time and I’m just so sick of it. Am I wrong g for getting mad?

Me siento atrapada!! I feel trapped!!

Im sooo sick of all the threats, verbal and mental abuse from my husband! Not just to me but to my kids especially my older son (from a previous relationship)! Im a SAHM , he pays for it all. And makes me feel like shit every time he threatens to take or not give me things because HE paid for them!

We got into it 1st because yesterday we had a trip and the kids left things in the car. We were cleaning it out and hes like you guys always fucking leave things in here blah blah blah and telling me stuff because there was food crumbs in the front which were his crumbs! We only have the fam car which is the one im always in with the kids and his work truck. I sold my other car to chip in for a bigger vehicle. So that makes it mine too. Well he was like whats gunna end up happening is ima take away the keys so u wont drive it anymore! Pissed me off. That was 1.

Then he got mad because i told him that he expect me to stay shut and not tell him crap. He is always verbally abusing me and then when i decide to speak up he starts telling me that i need to shut up before he does this or that to me. He got hella mad when i told him that hes used to having his way and never having anyone talk back, then he cant take it. That hes dramatic and acts like the victim.

Ive been looking for night jobs but its hard finding something. We have 4 kids total 2 are still toddlers and babysitting is expensive! I want to just go far away with my kids but i CANT IM STUCK!!! i have nothing and no one close by! My body hurts from the stress he puts us through. I have no help with them either! Ughhh i just wanna scream and cry soo bad but i cant let my kids see me crumble! Idk what to do! And to top that off divorce is expensive!!