Why is it that when some people hear that a parent is 1 and done, they instantly say "poor kid, going to grow up so lonely"

Then the pitch that you, a complete stranger, can change our minds by telling us how deeply alone they will be, how selfish it is, or how neglectful or abusive we are.

Not all siblings get along. Chosen families are a wonderful thing. Really? In this economy? And being a child who was planned for when not deeply wanted just to be a human play thing for the kid you already have sounds cruel. My Sister's Keeper vibes.

Officially gotten this lecture once too many and ready to scream. I cant even get the emissions in my car tested without a strange man calling me a selfish and mean mother for not reproducing enough for his liking.

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i’m actually mortified for you. whyyyyyy do people think this is appropriate to say to a stranger?! i don’t think i would even say it to a friend wtf. 😳

My step mom this weekend kept telling me I NEED to have 2 so they don’t have my childhood. I looked her straight in the face and said they already won’t since he has 2 loving parents that are safe for him and he’s not being thrown around from adult to adult because no one actually wants you.

She just looked at me dumbfounded. Safe to say she’s keeping her mouth shut now

I don’t want to be one and done but never once have I judged someone for having one and done. It’s not really my business imo in fact it’s no one’s business except for the people making the decision

Oh yeah I’ve heard it all.

This always baffles me the most from parents. Nothing has made me more staunch in the belief that people shouldn't have kids, or more kids, if they don't want them - than being a parent myself.
The idea of a house full of kids fills my heart with joy, thats why I want more than 1. If you don't feel that way then why put yourself or a child through that?

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Just signed up today as found out last week I am having another lil one due on 9th Feb if the calculations are right. I found it confusing at first that the test reads 1-2weeks but yet my app from first day or last period reads im 4 weeks and 6 days as of today 😅
No symptoms so far, unless you ask the other half about my mood swings 🤣 but I think that’s just him 🤫🤣

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Can someone help me please. If you know me, no you don’t

So, I think I might be pregnant. My tests are darker today… but why is my Wondfo positive, but my first response has only the faintest of faintest lines? With my March baby when my Wondfo looked like this, my first response was also faintly positive but darker than that. I’ve never been so confused in my life. I’m 10dpo. My period is due today. I have a short luteal phase. My Wondfos has looked like this since yesterday and I started getting more noticeable faint lines on frer. I know I won’t get a positive digital at this point. I think I’m going to buy some pregmates and see what they have to say at Target. Has this happened to anyone? I know every pregnancy is different, but first response has always been one of the first to show for me, and this time it’s just not. Photos in comments. Please help. This is driving me koo koo.

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Are we too quick to judge other cultures?

Are we too quick to judge other cultures/ ways of living?
I am in the UK and have recently been watching some documentaries about travellers who say that they face a lot of hatred and abuse simply because of being travellers.
Can we really tar an entire community over a small selection of bad eggs or experiences?

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2nd Baby

Can I have honest experiences on how people found tranitioning from 1 to 2 children.

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