Bruises on child at nursery

I don't know if I am being paranoid.

My son is 2, going through his terrible two phase, so can be a lil challenging at times.

The nursery failed it's offset recently in terms of managing behaviours.

I notice this week he came home with multiple bruises on each leg. Like 5 on one and 4 on the other.

While I know bruises are common and children can play rough with each other, it tends to only happen when he is at nursery.

My mind instantly went to is someone harming him at nursery. As they can't deal with his tantrums.

Am I being a paranoid mum?

What would you do?

Any tips or recommendations?

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I don’t think you’re being paranoid at all. Bruises are common at this age, especially in nursery settings where they’re constantly climbing/running/falling, but if you’re noticing multiple bruises repeatedly and only after nursery, it’s completely reasonable to ask about it.

I’d probably start by documenting them (photos/dates) and having a calm, non-accusatory chat with nursery first. Ask if there have been falls/incidents, rough play with other children, or difficult behaviour moments where he’s getting hurt. A good nursery shouldn’t make you feel silly for asking.

It’s also worth paying attention to where the bruises are. Shins/knees are super common at this age. Unusual places or bruises that can’t be explained would concern me more.

Trust your gut, but try not to let horror stories online immediately convince you the worst is happening either. Most nursery bruises genuinely are from normal toddler chaos x

I would take it serious too. Just take photos and let them know that you are aware of these and started questioning…

Ask for the incident report. If he is coming back with bruises then they must witness him falling. If the fail to provide detail of how it happened make sure you tell them you are monitoring it. Hopefully he is just having tantrums and hurting him self by kicking his legs and they just can’t manage it rather than someone physically abusing him. Either way put the fear of god in them

Always trust your instincts..
No matter how silly it may sound and people shoot you down. Don’t do it!
My oldest son had a similar experience. On a few occasions I picked him u with a bloody lip. One day he had a huge bump on his forehead ( I always prefer being called for head bumps especially of that size) and with every injury they never could tell me how it happened. So either no supervision or something else was going on. He was still too young at the time to express himself verbally and went to social services. About a year later, the owner lost her permit

Bruises on the leg wouldn't worry me. But if they look like finger marks they can.

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