Am I crazy?

You don’t want your partner changing them?

I understand if baby is fussy they get handed over to mom, but yet why can’t baby be also handed to dad? Dad can’t also feed baby and change baby?

You are not crazy and it’s not unreasonable…you are a first time mama . You will be a wonderful mom. I will say as a mom of 3 now, the more babies you have, the more help you will want/appreciate! 😅 maybe she’s not thinking back to what it was like to become a mother for the first time, wanting to be there for the baby for everything. That newborn phase is a time for you to bond with your baby and that’s what you are focused on.

You sound just a little crazy if I am honest. I get it is your child but children benefit the most from having many loving and nurturing relationships and conflict within the family will impact your child if you let it.

I am in no way saying let them rule your family but approaching the topic with understanding, curiosity and kindness can help.

If your rules differ from their values it is not an automatic attack on you to question it! The MY house, MY child business is a nasty environment for your child to grow up in.

You can remain firm on your rules but approaching their reactions with kindness and having explanations for the rules can help immensely.

It can be hard to be honest but I believe helping others to understand will create a far more nurturing environment for your little one or ones in the future. Conflict is awkward and we do feel like we shouldnt need to justify ourself but it can help to foster a supportive environment if we approach others with empathy! You are likely on the same team!

You sound crazy 😵‍💫

It's definitely not an unreasonable rule. It's your instinct to want to comfort your fussy baby! Biologically, you two are very dependent on each other. It's good for baby to bond with dad too, but I don't see your request as unreasonable. You still have the right to change your mind or ask for help if you want to. I'm sure you'll have moments where you're exhausted and you actually would like your husband to step in, but that's as easy as just asking him to. Hopefully your MIL was asking from a place of not wanting her son to shift all the work on you and not with any ill intention.

It is not odd or crazy. A lot of women experience anxiety or even rage postpartum, especially when your child is crying right there. Personally, my chest would tighten and I’d start sweating if someone wanted to try to calm her and I just had to be around while she cried. Hormones are so crazy.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable. Your MIL is being a little unreasonable though 👀. I’m glad your husband defended the boundary list w/ you.

Imagine mums calling other mums /soon to be mums ‘crazy’😭 you are totally within your right to implement these rules. No mother or mother in law should be questioning them. I wish I inforced rules at the beginning. Now I’m left feeling sad or unseen most of the time I’m around other people with my baby. You should never be called crazy!! 😭😭 everyone is entitled to their opinion especially if you’re asking for it but hell no to the name calling.