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First time mums

In Laws and People pleasing

I’m 39 weeks so hoping to have baby soon, and feeling a lot more emotional/sensitive in the last 2 weeks, which has resulted in some low moods for me.

My sister lives 5 minutes away and will be taking time off work to support me until September, she’s also a second mum to me and the only person I trust with my life, my husband also views her as a big sister/central in our immediate family unit so they have a great relationship.

My husbands sister has asked if she, her 2 year old and husband can spend a week with us when the baby is born. They’ve said first week of July. We aren’t close at all although she has been lovely to us and bought gifts etc BUT the thought of being postpartum with a toddler and her husband in the house while I’m bleeding etc is really upsetting me.

If it was just her I’d feel a lot more open to it. But her husband is with her 24/7.

My husband has told her we’ll wait to see how labour goes, but he wants me to be comfortable and thinks 1 week is too much.

For context, they have the option to stay at her brother in law’s house which is 10 minutes from ours but want to stay with us.

My husband will only be off for 2 weeks and they’ll come when he’s back at work (he works from home) and the thought of having to spend all day with them is overwhelming me.

I feel really bad and like I’m maybe being unreasonable and unfair saying they can’t stay over despite having an open door policy with my own sister and her husband (who I have known since I was 8 years old!) and this is making my mood low.

Am I being unreasonable? I feel like a horrible person and I can tell they are disappointed.