Im thinking of giving up my parental rights. What should I do

Ive been thinking just today that im really wondering wtf I was thinking about having a kid. I have major depression and I lay in bed all day. Im schizoaffective with ptsd. I never knew being a mom would be this hard plus my son is autistic. I have been handling all his issues and so far hes done a 180 but when hes at home hes a monster. He throws his toys on the floor and on the wall... they make a big bang noise... he doesnt listen to me. Hes also like a little tornado. I cant keep my house clean. He will go in drawers and rip everything out of them. Personally id like to live kid free. I thought I was up for the role but I have big issues that ive been struggling with for years. What can I do. I dont want to give up ny son but I do because I dont think I can handle this AND hes autistic. Any advice? Thanks

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If you are unable to give your son what he needs then I would give him to someone who can. You're so brave to be so honest. Can the doctors not help manage your conditions better so its less overwhelming? Can you get out more to burn babies energy and make you both feel a bit better

Can you ask to see another doctor its not fair for them to dismiss you like that. Oh bless you do you have a garden? How old is baby?

Are u a single mom?

I think I have clinophobia to then. I love to lay in bed. It's my safe space that makes me feel so good. Not that my home isn't safe it is. But I feel so much better in bed. I have been getting out of bed more and more and doing pretty well. Bed does feels like the most comfortable option though. But I have a spine that bends. I get uncomfortable sitting for more than a couple hours and then I got to get up and move or lay down. I am not depressed though. I am bi polar but mostly manic if I didn't take my meds. I get a shot of abilify every month so I don't forget to take me meds. How old is your kid, could you get him into a program that will help him. But only you know what is best for your son. Do you have family that could take him?

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What should i do?

A long story short,
Me and my bf have a 2 year old. Throughout my pregnancy my bf wasn’t super supportive, once i had our son he was so good for a couple weeks, and since then he has basically left most of it to me. Night feeds, cleaning, food shop, I pay the bills because he is in debt, he does his hobby on either a Saturday or Sunday and an evening or two during the week.. which involves alcohol and drugs.
I do the cooking, washing up, wash his clothes, obviously look after our son.
He will sometimes do the bedtime routine and cook maybe 2/4 times a month.

Anyway, my family think i’d be best without him but somehow i cannot seem to let go. I’m scared I’ll regret it.

Would you stay or leave? And any advice would be appreciated, thank you

Hi Can i see your 7 months old baby’s plate please ???

Mama is out of ideas

Meal times!

How are we coping with meal times?! 😩 Especially those that do it single handedly (my partner is a chef so spends evenings at work) I'm really struggling to juggle trying to keep my 12.5 month old out of trouble/happy whilst I'm cooking dinner and it just all ends up in shambles, i don't like cooking at the best of times but even less when I've either got my little boy tugging at my legs or if i put him in his high chair with toys, he just ends up screaming after 5 mins🤦‍♀️ i don't even know what I'm looking for to be honest just need to know I'm not the only one thats struggling with this part of parenting 😮‍💨 pic of how dinner went tonight for fun 😭🤣

Weaning! 9 months old

Helpppp! I’m trying to do some BLW meals and I’m so stuck!

Does anyone have any easy simple ideas for a very anxious mum!

If you’re at a close friend / relative’s house do you ask if you can eat their foods or snacks or do you just help yourself ?

I’m trying to be better at eating nutritious
meals so I meal prep my meals and snacks. Went to get my snack to see it’s all gone 😒 I’m always the type of person to ask if it’s okay to eat something first if it does not belong to me (even my husband). Like I know Greek yogurt and nuts are his go to snack at night. I’m not gonna eat them all/ the last of it because I know he won’t have anymore - especially without asking!! I’ll add that he probably wouldn’t make a big fuss about this if I did but I still would not.

Is my husband being unhelpful or am I hormonal?

I’m 40 weeks tomorrow. My husband wanted to get some beer yesterday but decided not to in case we needed to go to the hospital. Today I was meant to have sweep but they couldn’t do it because my cervix wasn’t open. So he said he was going to get some beer because baby isn’t definitely coming today. He got himself a pizza for dinner and nothing for me and didn’t greet me when he came home, just went straight to bed.
My issue is 1. How do you know that? 2. He’s pampering himself, meanwhile I’m now having bad cramps and miserable! And 3. The midwife said for me to relax and for him to help with oxytocin and he’s being super unhelpful! I now don’t want to be around him because he’s bad vibes and I’m not feeling very oxytocin-full at all!