Guilty about dad doing a lot of the nightly wake ups

So my husband can sleep almost anywhere and the moment his head touches the pillow he’s fast asleep. Where if I wake up and start walking around or dealing with our daughter, that’s it I’m wide awake and it can take me hours to drift back off.
So recently we’ve got into this habit that he gets up to see to our daughter who still wakes up once in the night but I’m starting to feel a bit guilty about it. We’ve always taken it in terns but now I’m back at work it’s sorta the less of two evils if he just gets up and deals with her. It affects him way less than it affects me so it’s been helpful him just taking one for the team. But I’m starting to feel a bit guilty.

What would you do?

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Honestly, this is what genuine partnership looks like, t’s ensuring the wellbeing of the collective. I’m sure the goodnight sleep allows you to be a better wife/mother and your family benefits from that greatly.
I’d obviously suggest giving him a rest on weekends/holidays and I’d find areas to make his life easier and let him know how appreciated he is and that may ease your guilt.

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