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I’ve been having issues with my boyfriend for awhile now. I got pregnant 1-2 months that we were “together” and we’ve been trying to make things work. He says he loves me and at first things were great. He would pay for everything and be there for me. But I’m coming to see that he’s quite selfish. Our baby is 8 months now and the agreement is that I would take care of the baby while he works. Things weren’t going as planned and we needed extra money so I started doing uber+ I sold my breast milk. 2 months ago he got fired for on the job drinking and hasn’t found a job yet. He’s still expecting me to do everything (cook, clean, take care of baby etc.) and now makes a big deal on how’s he saying the bills. I’ve already given him over $4,000 to pay for a car and to give him parents for rent. I practically have to beg for him to help me. I don’t what to do. Ive tried talking to him about finding another job, but he just blows up or refuses to talk to me.

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He’s expecting you to carry everything to enable him to be lazy. Set boundaries and document everything

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My situation was kinda like this...I would do everything make money, clean and take care of the kids....he wouldn't help out...then he started to cheat and hit me...I would tell him to leave but he wouldn't...I found out he was a narcissist...when I finally got away my life myself and kids were actually happy...my advice is if things are like this now get out...yes it's hard and hurtful but it will be hard the longer you stay...do it for yourself and baby...

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He's abusing you. Get rid of him or if you can't stop giving him money. I guarantee when you stop enabling him he'll either step up or leave.

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