Do you struggle with empathy ?

Personally it’s not exactly an empathy issue. I feel too much usually. BUT, I can’t stand people who can’t help themselves and always play the victim card like CONSTANTLY.

Don’t get me wrong, I totally understand wanting to vent and no advice needed, sorta thing.

But don’t ask me for advice and then give me every excuse in the book WHY none of the solutions could work. Just bugs me 😂

My best friends bad about this lately and I’ve just started with “wow, that sucks, I’m sorry girl” because idk what else to say

Do you identify with having an avoidant attachment? I do and very much attribute my disgust for weakness to that. For me, weak = vulnerability and vulnerability = humiliation and shame.

I have a lot of empathy and struggle detaching from it at times, but I can also see this other side and view it as a corruption of my own mind, so when I’m struggling, I go back to the avoidant attachment stuff and ask myself why I’m triggered or struggling, and then I override it.

I’ve always considered myself an empath and had never struggled to feel empathy but it’s only lately that I struggle with it. This may or may not be your case but for me, I think constant mental burnout and concern over things going on in my own life leave me emotionally depleted to where I don’t have much left in the tank for other people, except my son really.

I'm autistic so I generally struggle with empathy, but I guess due to the adversity I faced growing up, I have absolutely no empathy or sympathy for people who wallow in their victimhood/bad choices instead of taking steps to improve their circumstances. And honestly I think even if I did it would be wasted, because most people like this don't want solutions or to better themselves, they want to be victims because it justifies them being shitty and lazy and doesn't require any effort. I know several people like this, including people in my own family, and it drives me nuts. I have empathy/sympathy for people who are in situations they cannot do anything about or didn't choose, but otherwise nothing.