Naughty toddler for mum - advice pls 🙏🏼

Hi everyone, I’ve had a few comments from my husband recently that our recently turned two year old son is a lot better behaved for him than me. I do agree that this is the case in some points however, I do tell him off when he’s naughty and explain things that aren’t correct. We also have a system when he’s being very naughty to just put him behind the baby gate in his bedroom (door open) for a couple of minutes and then go explain to him what he did was wrong etc and then bring him out again. I use this system and also the naughty step if we’re downstairs.

However, tonight, I came home from working at 8:15pm and got a lovely greeting from our toddler but then he stole my juice bottle and proceeded to pour it into his own cup. I was right there watching him but he poured a lot of it into his cup and it was then quite full so I said you need to put the lid on or it will spill, he was then getting frustrated because obviously he wanted to do it himself. I then said no I needed to help him and he started throwing a tantrum. I put the lid on and he then grabbed it And threw it and was proper crying. Keep in mind this is now 8:30/4pm so he’s very tired after a day at nursery.

My partner then proceeded to get annoyed at me saying how good our son has been for the last few hours whilst he’s had him eg no shouting, no screaming, no tantrums etc. that it’s my fault how he’s naughty because he doesn’t do it for him and so on so forth. This made me feel so sh*t because as I explained above it’s not like I don’t tell him off when he’s naughty he does just listen to his dad more…

I’ve heard before that toddlers naturally get more upset and behave worse for their mums. Is this really true or is my partner just correct? ☹️

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What do you think?

I need a third party outside perspective.

My boyfriend and I got in a fight last week, and I decided to stay at my sister’s house. My child was with a sitter over night, and I just figured I’d rather have a girls night with her than go home alone.

Now my house is currently under renovations, so I have unhung drywall resting against the walls downstairs and in the upstairs hallway.

Anyways, I got home the next morning and all the drywall in the hallway was crumpled into tiny pieces, and tossed in the bathroom entryway. Nothing else in the house was moved or touched. My door was unlocked that night.

Now I left my house the day before around 2, when the contractor was still working, and didn’t come home til next morning, so I assumed maybe they had an accident or something. I texted him. The contractor swears they didn’t do it, and said they don’t know how that would’ve happened, because nothing else was touched and if someone broke in, they had tools and stuff worth a lot of money that was untouched. My cash savings were untouched. And nothing else looks out of place.

I called my boyfriend right away, and he agreed it was weird and asked how they got in, I told him the door was unlocked, and he yelled at me because he’s always telling me to lock my door. But he swears it wasn’t him, and I believed him.

My parents think my boyfriend didn’t though. They asked who else would have motive and said it’s weird that the drywall was the only thing damaged. But if he was mad at me, I don’t know why he’d ruin the unhung drywall and not my other valuables? He knows where I keep everything. Also, he’s never just gone into my house and broken stuff before, and I was on the phone with him most of the night I was at my sisters house while he cried and begged me to come back to his place.

I don’t know what to think honestly.

Men have it "easier"

Men and women definitely have their own hardships, but I feel like majority of men will never understand how much harder it is to be a women.

Women are held to such high expectations, there's so much judgement around anything we do from men and even other women.

It's like nothing you do is ever right. Even if you ignore everyone else and their unnecessary opinions, I feel like it still gets to you eventually.

Most women are also living their lives in fear because of men who have traumatized them. Chances are if you see a women, nine times out of ten that women has probably been abused by a man emotionally, physically, sexually, or more than one.

Take childbirth into consideration.

For men it's just 30 seconds and then they go about their business, not for women. We sacrifice our body and mind to carry children, nourish them, and protect them. While some men check themselves out, cheating because "we never have sex anymore" or even just straight up leaving.

Women are almost always depicted as dramatic or hormonal. Expected to do it all and keep a smile on your face the whole time. It's ok for a man to need a break, but when a women does she's a bad mother.

Most men just don't understand what it's like, and they never will.