Husband criticizing everything i do

It feels like every day, every hour I'm doing something wrong. I have a 3yo and a 9mo and I do a lot of it on my own. He works a lot so I don't expect him to do much but he doesn't realize how much I do. And when I ask him to do something he gets an attitude. Like when our 3yo has to go potty I'm always the one that has to go with her. And I don't even have to do anything, I just stand there, hand her tp, and make sure she wipes. But literally everytime I ask him to take her I get an attitude. Like it's the hardest job in the world. And on top of not getting help, I'm just a bad mom. Ive been in survival mode for forever, so I get frustrated easily. I'm trying to be better about it but I'm just exhausted mentally and physically... Everyday it's hes making comments about how I shouldn't be doing this or I should be doing that. 3yo hasn't had a bath in a couple days, the kitchen is a mess, the laundry isn't done. Every time he criticized me i feel this ball of anger in my chest grow another inch. I feel like the worst mom in the world like i failed my children...

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The other day I was walking up the steps to the house, I was angry cause we had just had an argument, and i accidentally bumped into my 3yo and I didn't know. And instead of saying something he just said "that was rude. You just pushed your daughter because you don't care about anyone but yourself." Like I didn't even know I did it... Why would I physically punish my 3yo for our fight?? I would never do that... And the fact he thinks I would makes me feel like a shitty mom... Why does he think I'd do something like that...?

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What the actual fuck is this guys problem?? Also saying you purposely pushed your child when you didnt is just to be nasty and make you feel shit. Its emotional abuse. You need support and hes given you nothing. You need a serious chat and possibly couples therapy if hes not going to listen. Does this guy even like you??

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Hun you are NOT a bad mum, you are simply burnt out because he is USELESS and is not doing fuck all.

If you're gonna stay in this relationship, he needs to step up, and you basically have to make him look after his fucking kids.

Ignore the attitude, if he does it (with attitude) then he does it.

Like just tell him "I'm going grocery shopping, alone, watch the kids" and leave the house. Like give him a ten minute heads up but walk out alone.

If he cannot keep your children alive and safe.....then..... you want to be leaving.

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Why does my partner always have a wank when I’m asleep or after we had sex I think I’m not good enough for him anymore l, is it normal plus he puts the quite in between us as well and sleep away from me I’m upset etc I’m fed up with it now I ask him but he denies it

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Help, baby dad problem

What would you do?
Yesterday morning I asked my partner to get up with our 1 year old as I do it every morning and I’m exhausted, he’s a 5am waker. He said he wanted another hour as he was nightshift that night so I said alright and got up and on with it, took baby down for milk. About 30 mins later I went upstairs (he didn’t hear me come up) to find him w*nking off?!! Watching p*rn and pleasuring himself while he can hear his 1 year old playing clear as day downstairs. Bedroom door and living room door wide open. I think what he has done is absolutely vile and at the moment I can’t even look at him. I don’t know what to do from here? I also think if he can do that and get off while he can hear his child playing downstairs he needs to go to some sort of therapy for that? Any advice appreciated.

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Do you actively watch your child?

Do you actively watch your child or do you look from time to time when out at the park, outdoor activities, water/splash parks?

Took my LO to the splash park today. She wasn’t feeling it much so we changed clothes and my mom took her to swing. I stayed for a little break. This child I’ll say about 5-6 causally walks up to this lady with his swim pants down to his knees exposed. The lady says nothing. After about 3 mins she asks where his mom was the child didn’t respond, she then shouts out “where is this child’s momma. Hello child’s mother, please get this child away from me.” All while child proceeds to take off the rest of his clothes and runs off. 😳😳 He is now on the floor in the splash park. Mother still not insight. She finally appears trying to get him off the floor with no success he goes to sprint off again running and knocking both him and another boy child about 8-9 on the floor. 😳😳

This was all in the matter of about 7-8 mins. No supervision. Injured another child, and the mother is just nervously smiling chasing after her child. No apology to the mother of the child her child knocked down. Then the momma yelling “get this child away from me.”SMH I could only imagine what’s going through her head. I mean I wouldn’t use those choices of words but had her child been knocked over running away the initial time I guess I get it.

My LO is 16 months and I was already anxious with outdoor adventures. After today I think I’m okay on outings for the rest of the summer. I’ll wait til everyone goes back to school. 😅

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Can someone please tell me if I’m overreacting

A while ago i found out my husband was letting his female friend talk shit about me n he was talking shit as well about me and as someone that I love so much it obviously hurt me so bad I constantly think about it and ask myself why he would do that I bring it up because the first time we talked about it you could see on his face that it didn’t really bother him n that he was getting annoyed by the questions i asked him so it feels like the whole thing is unresolved I have really bad anxiety so it pops up into my head quite often I brought it up to him again because I can’t wrap my head around it and as always he seemed annoyed because I asked him why he did it and he said “i said sorry what else do you want me to do” it was in a text btw where he said sorry long story short he said I was just trying to start a argument because I bring up everything when everything is back to normal can someone tell me if I am overreacting

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Maama needs help 😭

Hey girls, I really need some advice and would love to hear your opinions.

I have a very active 3-year-old toddler and a 7-month-old baby. My 7-month-old refuses purées and spoon-feeding completely. Every time I try to offer purées, mashed foods, or feed him with a spoon, he gets really frustrated, starts fussing and crying, and refuses to eat.

I’ve tried giving him his own spoon while I feed him with another one, and I’ve also tried distracting him with toys, but nothing seems to help. He just gets upset, and by the end of it, we’re both frustrated and there’s food everywhere.

When I offer finger foods or solids, he’s interested in touching them, squishing them, and making a mess with them, but he hardly puts any food into his mouth. Even when he does, he usually spits it back out. At the end of the day, it feels like he hasn’t actually eaten anything and is still relying entirely on milk.

I also don’t have a lot of extra time to prepare elaborate meals because I’m looking after both kids, so I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible.

Has anyone been through something similar? Is this normal for a 7-month-old? Do you have any tips or suggestions that might help him become more interested in actually eating rather than just playing with the food?

I feel quite sad and worried because it seems like he’s not really eating any solids at all. I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences you can share. ❤️

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Solids?

What’s your 11 months intake of milk and solids? I feel like I’m failing at solids 😢

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