It feels like every day, every hour I'm doing something wrong. I have a 3yo and a 9mo and I do a lot of it on my own. He works a lot so I don't expect him to do much but he doesn't realize how much I do. And when I ask him to do something he gets an attitude. Like when our 3yo has to go potty I'm always the one that has to go with her. And I don't even have to do anything, I just stand there, hand her tp, and make sure she wipes. But literally everytime I ask him to take her I get an attitude. Like it's the hardest job in the world. And on top of not getting help, I'm just a bad mom. Ive been in survival mode for forever, so I get frustrated easily. I'm trying to be better about it but I'm just exhausted mentally and physically... Everyday it's hes making comments about how I shouldn't be doing this or I should be doing that. 3yo hasn't had a bath in a couple days, the kitchen is a mess, the laundry isn't done. Every time he criticized me i feel this ball of anger in my chest grow another inch. I feel like the worst mom in the world like i failed my children...
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Learn more about our guidelines.The other day I was walking up the steps to the house, I was angry cause we had just had an argument, and i accidentally bumped into my 3yo and I didn't know. And instead of saying something he just said "that was rude. You just pushed your daughter because you don't care about anyone but yourself." Like I didn't even know I did it... Why would I physically punish my 3yo for our fight?? I would never do that... And the fact he thinks I would makes me feel like a shitty mom... Why does he think I'd do something like that...?

What the actual fuck is this guys problem?? Also saying you purposely pushed your child when you didnt is just to be nasty and make you feel shit. Its emotional abuse. You need support and hes given you nothing. You need a serious chat and possibly couples therapy if hes not going to listen. Does this guy even like you??

Hun you are NOT a bad mum, you are simply burnt out because he is USELESS and is not doing fuck all.
If you're gonna stay in this relationship, he needs to step up, and you basically have to make him look after his fucking kids.
Ignore the attitude, if he does it (with attitude) then he does it.
Like just tell him "I'm going grocery shopping, alone, watch the kids" and leave the house. Like give him a ten minute heads up but walk out alone.
If he cannot keep your children alive and safe.....then..... you want to be leaving.

I was scrolling and accidentally clicked bad mom!